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Bid for Connection

Bishop Rasmussen spoke in sacrament meeting of the Los Alamos ward conference this past Sunday regarding bids for connection. He says there are three things we can do: turn away, turn against or turn towards.

He used the example of a married couple, but it would apply to anyone and could be related to how we respond or offer ourselves to the Savior. He related that if his wife was to come in and ask him if he would like to go for a walk with her, he has three options for responding to her. He could take offense at her request (bid for connection) and accuse her of calling him fat and lazy. I believe this was his turning against example. Alternatively, we could say I’m too busy right now, or turn away. Of course, he could turn towards his wife and say, yes, I would love to go for a walk with you. Or, he could respond and say, I’m in the middle of something important here, but how about after you get back from your walk we spend some time together.

I know that I am guilty of not turning towards people always. Sometimes we get set into doing what we are doing and don’t make the time we should for those around us. Let us all strive to be better at making and accepting bids for connection.

He Said Son, Since 1952, I’ve Been

Sometimes the road up the mountain has some switch-backs in it and you end up back tracking in the process of making it to the top. The pursuit of happiness isn’t always happy.

I said some not so nice things tonight via text and twitter, but I am going to stand by them. I’ll probably get in more trouble for revealing some facts tonight that I would normally keep boxed up as well. Hopefully I’ll stand by that decision in the morning as well. I was uninvited to Disneyland tonight due to events from earlier this week. It was clear that Larilyn didn’t want to be anywhere near me and so I guess the event tonight became girls only. To be quite honest, I don’t agree with it, but I would have been ok with it if that had been the way I was told it. Instead, I was told flat out that I was uninvited. Eventually I was told it became a girls night out. The funniest part of the whole thing was that I was so tired tonight I wasn’t planning on going to begin with! I wasn’t trying to avoid anyone; I just knew when I fell asleep at the computer driving an hour to Disneyland wasn’t going to be in my best interest or that of those others on the road.

I’ve been trying to tell Maegan all week. For whatever reason she has been avoiding me, so I left her a voicemail tonight. It only took three attempts to try and get some of what I wanted to say into a 3 minute voicemail (or whatever her time limit is). It really needed to be at least a fifteen minute conversation and I hate that it wasn’t done in person or at least in realtime. On the bright side, it is off my plate now and I can stop worrying about what I’m going to say and instead just continue to wait. Maybe I will have ended up ruining three friendships tonight, but I’m going to be selfish tonight and be ok with that.

I know very well from past experience that bottling up my feelings and not sharing them doesn’t help the situation, so I’m going to try and be more open and make sure my intentions are understood by all as early on as possible. Maegan may still come back to set me straight and tell me to leave her alone, but at least I will know for sure at that point and I will be able to move forward instead of running in circles around this mess.

The rest of the day was pretty crazy. I was back out in the field today, again back at UCSD for a good portion of the day and Batch and I took care of a few other things on the way back. We had a late lunch at Buffalo Wild Wings, without Megan who is having way too much fun over in England right now I’m sure.

I met with a senior missionary from the Riverside California Mission this evening. It sounds like the Alta Murrieta Ward missionaries will be moving in most likely next Monday. I have a few reservations, but I think it will be good and I’m prepared to make a few sacrifices if necessary for a while to give them an appropriate place to live. If nothing else it should really help me be missionary minded and hopefully keep me out of trouble cause I don’t need any more of that right now.

And I think with that I have caused enough trouble for one night and I’m going to call it quits and head to bed. I’m going to try to make it to building cleanup tomorrow since I haven’t been there all month. I’ve selectively neglected it long enough, even if Cynthia won’t be there to guilt me into coming tomorrow.

LDS.org – Whom Shall I Marry?

I was searching for this quote:

When the time for decision arrives,
the time for preparation is past.

and came across this article:

LDS.org – New Era Article – Whom Shall I Marry?.

I thought it was good reading and wanted to share it, obviously. I love the story where he uses the above quote, about needing to decide to do something and it being too late to be prepared. I guess it is true that we can’t put off the day of preparation, or the day of repentance for that matter.

I also like this line from Come, Come, Ye Saints: “Fresh courage take. Our God will never us forsake.” I’m not sure I had ever pondered it in the context to give you courage, but I’m sure that’s why it was written. I bet a lot of life could be made better with some fresh courage.

What Makes Marriage So Hard? | A Good Husband

In reading this blog today (from LDSNana) I realized I had never thought of the differences that would arise from me practically being an only child and marrying someone that could have a large family. I’ve always thought I liked the idea, but I had never thought about how hard it could be for my wife to adjust to having a quiet house at times. That’s (a quite house) something you just don’t get in a large family.

What Makes Marriage So Hard? A Reader Question | A Good Husband

There really are so many things to figure out that one couldn’t possibly even think of before the wedding. I guess this just points back to how important communication is. I have seen a few things fail from lack of communication, I would hate for that to happen in my marriage.

I was reading a conference talk Tuesday morning before going to the temple about being slow to anger. I totally can see this in my life and the difference between a cool headed person and one that lets everything get to him or her. I’ve been working on this a lot lately I think. I like to think that I’ve improved on this quite a bit since high school where I remember overreacting quite a bit. I’m sure there is still more work that I can do. I wish never to be angry or mad. We may get frustrated over things and we will certainly disagree at times, but it doesn’t have to get out of control.

As I was writing this, I heard “What I Can Not Change” by LeAnn Rimes. LeAnn Rimes - Family - What I Cannot Change Here is the chorus:

I will learn to let go what I cannot change
I will learn to forgive what I cannot change
I will learn to love what I cannot change
But I will change, I will change
Whatever I, whatever I can

I don’t think I’ve ever listened to the words of the song before and it came at a perfect time. There are tons of things we cannot change, including our spouses, so we need to just let go, forgive and love. I hope that I will be able to do this and may we all learn to be a little more forgiving and understanding in my prayer.

Bee Movie

I was able to get a little bit of relaxation in today. I did a small amount of cleaning this morning and then watched Fringe. I got the joy of working a wedding today at GT. I got to see and talk with Sean who I haven’t seen in a while, so that was cool, and the wedding was pretty easy.

After the wedding, I enjoyed some more peaceful time at home. Lauren was supposed to come over, but I never heard from her. I’m sure she fell asleep again or something along those lines.

I got some pictures printed at Costco today as well. It was really for Tara, who I have been promising pictures to for months now. It also gave me an excuse to fill a frame I bought the other day and order some others which may someday make it into a frame and help me fill the walls of this house.

I watched Bee Movie tonight. It was fairly entertaining, but nothing too special. I liked that they learned what a contribution to society they are. It makes me think about all the things that we complain about or that we want to fix. If things were different, would the grass really be greener? We hate ants, yet without them we would have a trash problem. They clean up a lot of things that we leave behind. Even in our houses they help us to keep clean as we don’t want to have to deal with them. It really is a huge circle we have here. If one part of the circle stops doing it’s job, we’ll all have some big problems on our hands.

Thinking

Today was pretty busy at work and I got stuck working the whole day. I guess it was good I took a lunch break. I was kind of forced to since there is essentially nothing in the house to eat. I didn’t make anything so there are no leftovers for tomorrow either!

We had FHE at the Pugmire’s tonight. I like having FHE in a home so much better than at the stake center. Todd gave a quick lesson on being careful of what we think. I know this to be true for our thoughts become our actions and it only grows from there. I hope I can learn to better control my thoughts.

Kenny helped me out with home teaching tonight as we visited Chris.

Goals and Practicing What You Preach

We talked tonight at FHE about setting goals. It was said that a goal not written down is just a wish or hope. I think I’ve long known this is one of my problems. I think I’m afraid to set goals because I am afraid to not measure up to them. I know that we have to set measurable and attainable goals, and further that they need to be challenging enough to motivate and yet not so challenging that they seem unreachable. Or maybe I am afraid of actually letting my dreams come true and obtaining my goals.

I was pondering this morning what I need to do to better practice what I preach. This could probably help me become a better teacher. I know at the office I could probably show more work ethic while still trying to keep things light. Outside of work, I’m not sure how to be better off the bat. I’m sure there is room to improve and maybe that just means opening my mouth more instead of always letting someone else do the talking.

Work went fairly well today. I’ve been doing really good lately at staying on top of my email and my to do list. I have been checking things off like mad which is great. I love leaving with the sense of accomplishment for the day instead of thinking of all the things I need to get done the next day. Of course, I also love being stressed with tons of work and would rather have a busy day than a quiet day at the office. I guess that is where a nice mixture comes in.

Elder Nelson Encourages Young Adults to Embrace Worthy Music

Mormontimes:

PROVO, Utah – Young adults need to value the power of worthy and uplifting music and “delete the rubbish from your minds and your iPods,” said Elder Russell M. Nelson at the Church Educational System fireside on Sunday. Elder Nelson, a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, said that “music provides power for us to express prayerful thoughts and bear testimony of sacred truths.”

May I just quickly add my testimony to what is said here, and what was said last night. Music can have a tremendous impact on all of our lives. Everything from as simple as the tempo of the song affecting our mood to the lyrics of the music subconsciously motivating us to do things (maybe not quite on that level, but pretty seriously at times). Many stores and restaurants put a lot of time and effort into choosing the right music to create the appropriate atmosphere for their customers. Some restaurants choose more upbeat music at lunch to get customers in and out and then later in the day switch to something more soothing for those coming in after a long day at work. Stores want to play music which will keep you in the store, slow you down and cause you to look at items and ideally purchase. There is a whole science to it which is pretty incredible.

In any event, we tend to do what we think. Rather, we act on the thoughts we develop. The music we listen to can and will foster the thoughts that will lead to our actions. It may not be an immediate impact, yet it will impact us all over time. I have struggled with choosing appropriate music, and have even learned that there are times when no music is needed. I used to surround myself constantly with music and discovered that I had no time to think. If I was listening to the music, I would be thinking in tune with the songs lyrics instead of pondering  those things which I need to put my own thoughts into.

I’ve totally gotten off subject here, let me see if I can bring any level of sanity back into this. Take a step back and look at the effect that music has on your life. Consider the lyrics of the songs you are listening to, their intentions and motivations. If they are not uplifting, maybe you should consider if they have any positive impact in your life. I’m not saying we need to listen to church hymns all day long. On the other hand, I think we need to remember what’s good, what’s better and what is ultimately best.

Shift Happens – Did You Know 2.0

Another link I found from Joel Dehlin that turned out to be quite interesting:

YouTube – Did You Know 2.0

This reminded me of a video we watched in my Leadership Class at CSU Fullerton. It is mind boggling how some things change the world. We really do need to prepare for the future and we have to solve the problems we created years before with new thinking.

The world is changing rapidly and not just with technology. The United States is not going to be #1 forever and we’re probably going to have some interesting changes ahead of us.

Let’s try and leave the world a better place for our children and grandchildren. Please.