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Our Love Story

Well, it has certainly been some time since I’ve taken the opportunity to write at all. In fact, ever since I met Megan I haven’t been so good at writing – I guess it’s just that we’ve been so busy and always had other things to do.

People have been asking for nearly a year now, and Cheesecake Factory finally made the incentive for me to write our love story down and submit it in their contest. Some of this has been covered, and some hasn’t, so I’m just going to try and get it all here in one spot for good!

Megan and I really met when Kenny invited her over to my house for movie night. I had some friends coming over to watch Twilight when it first came out on DVD. I should back up to say that we had kind of met a few weeks earlier at church, when we actually sat next to each other, but didn’t even so much as say a word to each other. The following week we spoke briefly at the Dowden’s, but the ice wasn’t really broken until the night she was here at the house. We started talking and I played her Brad Paisley’s new song, “Then.” I remember that Kenny and I were playing with iTunes DJ and she had started requesting a number of Brad Paisley songs, so I had to see if she had heard his latest. She instantly liked it. One of the other girls that was here, Ashley, was going to be having her birthday Tuesday and we were going to be going to Disneyland. I invited Megan to join us for dinner at Cheesecake Factory before.

When Tuesday came we met up at Cheesecake and then to my surprise she decided to join us afterward at Disneyland. We stayed up way too late that night and spent most of the evening talking. We started texting on our way home that night and the volume only went up from there. I was spending that week at the San Diego Temple for our semi-annual offering in righteousness where we spend most of the day there. So, I was up early the next morning and she was up early for work and we started talking each morning and each night on my way home from the temple. (It’s an hour long drive.) That Saturday I couldn’t decide if i was going to go to the temple or if I was going to call my week done and do something different. One way or another we ended up going to Disneyland – and of course going to Cheesecake Anaheim (with Teal as our waitress).

As what seemed to be par for our relationship, we were out way too late, especially considering the lack of sleep we’d had all week. Megan was going to spend the night at a mutual friend’s house – Sally & Bill (who incidentally had basically schemed this whole relationship) – but we didn’t get there till 2:15 Sunday morning! Unfortunately, they had left the house locked up so we had to try to break in instead of waking them up. After about a half hour of trying all sorts of things and talking about not wanting to wake people up, we finally called her mom who called to wake up Sally. That sure gave us interesting stories to be told the next day at church as I was currently serving in branch council with Bill.

After church on Sunday, she came back to my house where we sat and talked the evening away. We went to branch prayer came back to my house and threatened to have a pillow fight. At some point the evening ended and I decided to give her a night off on Monday. I guess I was worried that she would figure out that too much of me was a bad thing and I would scare her off. That Tuesday we were texting at work and she had eaten something spicy and thought she was going to die, or something to that effect. I asked her what she wanted to do for her last night here on earth – i.e. her last wish – and she couldn’t really come up with something. While I would have chosen Cheesecake, maybe we had just had too much, and she had mentioned this other restaurant Ancho’s previously. I suggested we try Ancho’s and then go go-carting, something else she had mentioned previously. Well, while we were planning all this Kenny showed up at my house, so he came along for the evening as well.

We had a great time and again were out too late. We were already planning on going to Disneyland the following day, April 1st. I actually had a friend who suggested the outing, so I started inviting people, including Megan. She told me that she had the day off from work. Well, long story short, it ended up just being the two of us at Disneyland that day. Since it was April fools day, I decided to tell facebook that she and I were married – and also to see how she would take it. I told her that facebook was being weird and that she needed to check it before we left. I don’t know what she thought – other than I was crazy – but she decided we could be married for the day and confirmed the relationship. We later started making up crazy stories that we were having our Disney fairy tale wedding that day and so forth. The one thing I regret doing was not buying her some kind of ring from Disneyland and putting it on her finger that day. We both were getting phone calls asking about what was going on. I don’t remember all that happened that day, but it was the day that I knew. It was also the second consecutive day that we would always see each other from there on out.

The following day we had no plans to be together, but at the last minute she came down for institute, a scripture study class we have at church. That was the day that I knew my feelings weren’t completely off base and she must have felt something back. We already had plans that Friday night to watch a movie, so she came down. That weekend was our church’s general conference where we watch various sessions on television, so she stayed in Murrieta so we could watch conference together. She invited me to dinner with her family on that Saturday, so we went there and I went to priesthood session with her father. We stayed and played games where I got to meet the whole family. Talk about intimidating: They were asking me all the questions!

Sunday we were back watching conference and we had plans to take Monday off. I was still worried about scaring her away. Well, another Cheesecake fanatic fan of mine called me up and said, “let’s go to Cheesecake,” the four magic words to which I immediately reply, “Let’s go!” I, of course, called up Megan and informed her that she was not going to be getting the night off after all. We haven’t had a night off since that Tuesday, thankfully, to date.

Back when I was trying to fulfill her last wish the previous week, she had mentioned something she doesn’t even remember. Brad Paisley’s Then was playing in the car and she said something to the effect of how she’d love to hear him sing it live. At the time, Brad was going to be playing at Stagecoach festival and I was thinking that would be a great place to propose. I guess my timeline wasn’t fast enough though and I got the hint that week to speed things up. We looked at some rings so I got an idea of what she wanted and decided Friday to call Zales and tell them to get the ring ready. I had that ring burning a hole in my pocket Friday night, all day Saturday when we went to Sea World and then Sunday morning. I had planned an Easter egg hunt for Megan Sunday and told her about it earlier.

We went to her parents for church Easter Sunday morning, and then had brunch at their house with the whole family. We rushed back to Murrieta to go to the singles ward here and I told her that I needed to swing by the house to get my stuff together. She wanted just to stay in the car, but I told her that I needed a few minutes and it would be a good time for her to do her Easter egg hunt. I had made most of the eggs fairly easy to find, and they all had a slip of paper in them. Most of them were lyrics to our song, Then. When she put them in the right order, it spelled out the location of the remaining egg. It spelled out pancake. So, she looked in the fridge and didn’t find an egg. Then she looked in the pantry and still no egg. She was starting to give up when she realized the pancake griddle was on the counter, not it’s normal spot. She looked all around it and didn’t find anything. I asked if she knew it had a drawer at which point she started pulling it out. By the time she had the egg opened, I was down on one knee behind her. I asked her to be my wife as she pulled the ring out of the egg.

Needless to say, we were way late for church. And there wasn’t anything that I needed from the house, other than for that ring to be on her finger and not burning a hole in my pocket! She totally wasn’t expecting it because I had led her to believe it was coming in a few more weeks and she knew I wouldn’t pop the question until I had asked her dad. What she didn’t know was that I had been trying to work up the courage to ask him – and find the time to do so – all morning long! I lingered and stalled at their house that morning trying to get him alone. It wasn’t done the way I planned it, but it worked out just fine. (I was planning to ask him the following week at the Redlands Temple.)

So, we really met March 21st and were engaged April 12th. There were a few more trips to Cheescake Factory over the coming months (I had the help of Discover Card in figuring out our timeline of dining at the Cheesecake Factory.) It was pretty much non-stop tlll the wedding. Megan went looking for dresses the next weekend while I was at a sealing, then I went to the Redlands temple with her parents, where I was planning on asking for her hand in marriage. We took a trip to Arizona to visit my grandma (and get a box she had been holding for me). During the trip we went horseback riding at the OK Corral. Then we were taking engagement pictures in Laguna Beach – followed, of course, by the original Cheesecake Factory that I had wanted to go to for a LONG time in Redondo Beach.

The next weekend we were shopping for cakes and then we were off to Pennsylvania and West Virginia for a week where we visited the Cheesecake Factory in Pittsburgh and Brad Paisley’s hometown of Glen Dale, WV. May 30th we were back in Redondo Beach at the Cheesecake Factory after going to the Point Fermin Lighthouse to scatter my mom’s ashes, something else I had been meaning to do for a long time. Her bridal shower was the following weekend, followed by her endowment. On the last free weekend she took her bridal portraits and we were busy with other things.

We were married June 26th in the Los Angeles Temple. Unfortunately, there was no Cheesecake involved, but we did stop at Chic-fil-a for a snack on our way home. Our reception was the following day and on our way to our honeymoon, you can bet our first stop – and our first real out to dinner meal was at the Cheesecake Factory Pasadena.

We had a lovely honeymoon in Santa Barbara at the Fess Parker Doubletree Resort. We spent a few days there exploring before going further north, but called it and came home early. (We were probably running low on Cheesecake after all that wedding cake.)

There’s lots to say from there, but I think I’m going to quit while I’m ahead today.

Getting Close

So it has been well over a month since I’ve even taken a few minutes to journal. That is the one thing that I would go back and change over the past few months. I wish I had taken the time to write much more. Apparently my Twitter integration on my website has been down for about that long, so those blogs haven’t even been posting!

Things are going good. Megan and I are getting married in 8 days and 14 hours. I really can’t wait for it all to be over and for us to be married, sealed together for time and all eternity. I probably could have done without all this hoopla, but I’m fairly certain that if we can make it through all this mess we won’t have much of a problem with life.

I’ve been really busy at work. I haven’t been able to catch up since we got back from West Virginia/Pennsylvania. I’m trying to hold my emails to 630-something and I still have about 300 that I haven’t even read. I’m really trying to do my best to get caught up before I leave for the honeymoon as I don’t want any of that being in the back of my mind while we are relaxing.

Speaking of the travels, we had a great time and loved all that time together. I still can’t believe she wasn’t sick of my by the end of the week.

I finished reading the book Sister Dowden recommended, Beloved Bridegroom. I found that it was more of a temple prep book than a marriage prep book as it was more focused on the marriage of Christ to His church, us. I did really enjoy it and there were some great comparisons to the marriage that Megan and I will be entering into next week. I found many of the old traditions very interesting to learn about.

I’ve started reading this new book, First Comes Love, which President Clegg gave us. It has some good advice in there, but I haven’t really come across anything new. Sometimes it is just good to hear the same thing again. I know I can be a slow learner.

I’m so lost as to what to do for our honeymoon. I wanted it to be a surprise to Megan, but then I decided to let her in on the basics of the plans to make sure it was what she wanted to do. Of course, she says whatever I plan will be fine. The plan is to drive up the coast and stay at a few different places. I was thinking on my drive home tonight though that maybe we shouldn’t spend two nights at three places and instead we should spend three nights at two places or something like that. I don’t know how often we’re going to want to be changing locations. Maybe I should just pick a central spot and we can be done with it too.

Megan received her endowments this past Saturday.

Megan made President Smith cry when he learned that we both had been true to the law of chastity. He said that so few people at our age, even members of the church, have been able to save themselves for their marriage. I can’t imagine it any other way.

We haven’t been doing very good with out question book and probably aren’t going to get through all the questions before we get married unless we really get our act together and start getting through them.

I’m not really looking forward to this weekend or many of the pieces of next week. While it will culminate in a great event, I’m going to go my first Saturday without seeing Megan for most of the day. She has bridal portraits and so will be getting hair and makeup done before she takes them in the early afternoon and then has lunch planned with her mom and Sally. It will probably be late afternoon or early evening before I even get to see her. I know I have lots to do around the house, I’m just sad. The other thing is that I probably won’t get to see her at all next Wednesday and Thursday. She’s going to have a bachelorette party on Wednesday night and then Thursday will be busy with getting things done for the wedding. I understand I’m supposed to pick her up on the way to the temple on Friday morning, but can you seriously imagine me going from Tuesday night to Friday morning without so much as seeing her?

This could be too much for me… I’m going to cry myself to sleep now.

Meet the Parents

First off, I’m not such a fan of waiting for Megan to drive home, but I do really like that it gives me some time to blog. We had our parents meet each other tonight at the Prosser’s house which I think worked out pretty well. They seemed to hit it off and I don’t think we came across any major road-bumps. I enjoyed having it at the Prosser’s and allowing them to get to know my parents as well and giving my parents a bit more of a glimpse into my life and that of the church.

Work went well today. I was only in the office for about half the day and then was driving around. Jenna and I talked about Megan and our marriage/relationship for a while. We seemed confident that things were going to work out. Jenna is getting married in a little under a year and I had expressed that there was no way I could wait that long. She told me that they are trying to save up to buy a house, so that’s the reason for waiting which makes sense to me. I’m glad that I have many of those things already straight in my life.

Megan and I were talking about jewelry for the wedding today. I rediscovered one of the things that I love about her. She is so sensible with money. She’s frugal, but not extreme. We were looking at bracelets for her and she kicked many out because they cost over $500. I love that she is so reasonable to understand that she’d rather have a $300 bracelet and a trip to Hawaii instead of a $5,000 bracelet.

It has come up more than once lately as to if we have had a real date. I’m not sure how to handle that question, because of course we’ve had tons of dates, but we certainly haven’t had a formal get dressed up kind of date. I’m not set on having one before we get married, but it would be kind of nice. Maybe I can arrange to take her to Wicked, although I kind of want to do that out of town. We have been talking about going to the drive in, but that wouldn’t require getting dressed up. Maybe we’ll have the opportunity next week while we are back east.

Megan made two suggestions last night which were great. I’d been thinking for a while that we needed to get better at praying together. It seems so often that we run to the end of the wick and fall asleep before we say our evening prayers, at least as formally as I’d like to. And I know that since she wakes me up in the morning, I often get out of the routine of my morning prayers. She suggested that we start praying together and also that we start reading scriptures together. I’m game for both suggestions, we just need to figure out how to actually make it work. We also have three books now to read together, so we’re thinking about each reading one alone and then passing it along. The problem I shared is that I don’t know when either of us is going to find the time to read at all.

I’m looking forward to going to the temple in the morning, but I’m not looking forward to going without any contact with Megan for that same time. I feel like I haven’t been in a while with not going last week, so I feel like I am long overdue. It sounds like I have some errands to run after the temple tomorrow. Tomorrow night we are getting fitted for our suits, getting some jewelry taken care of and hopefully spending some time with Melissa before she leaves for London.

Life is Great

Life is great. I can only really think of one thing that would make it better, and that is for our sealing to hurry up and get done. Megan counted today that there are 142 days before we are sealed together for time and all eternity. That just seems way too long. I am really looking forward to the day when she can remain at my side and we don’t have to do quite as much driving. We were doing fairly well on our goal this week of getting more sleep, but I think we ruined that one tonight. We totally lost track of time and didn’t realize that it was midnight before we decided she needed to hit the road. It was great because we were talking about some things that were good to be talking about.

I love this girl more than words can describe. Things just keep getting better everyday as we progress and I learn more about her. I’m so ready to make this legit.

Great Day at the Temple

I really need to get to sleep… I’m looking at less than five hours before I need to get up, but that’s about double what I got last night!

Things I’ve learned recently:

1. You can’t just go to Disneyland and ride one ride. We left an hour after closing (11) last night, so I didn’t get home till 1 this morning and was up at 4 for the temple!

2. Apparently Cynthia and I look like we’re married. It happened again today. I think I counted three separate times I was questioned in some way. Once by an officiator who when he asked if we were married and we told him no, he then asked if we had a date set yet! Then there were two if not three members of the stake that asked me about her. No wonder no one dates anyone! It’s not the “kids” that are thinking about marriage, it’s everyone else!

3. Five sessions is a lot to go through in one day with less than three hours of sleep.

4. I love turning my phone off and spending an entire day without a cell phone strapped to my side.

5. Sleep is good. I’m going there now!

Sittin’ on a Bench at West Town Mall

Wow, two nights in a row. What must be wrong? Today was quite interesting. I guess in many ways it was a typical Sunday, but it was different in many ways. First off, all I wanted to do was sleep this morning and I really didn’t want to get up and get going for church. I pulled myself out of bed about 8:30 to make breakfast, prepare a lesson and have time to get ready with all the other stuff. I still barely made it to my first meeting at 11.

The Diffley’s spoke today a lot on education and preparing for the future. The typical talks about saving money, getting a good education, etc. I do keep wondering if I should go back to school, but I don’t know why I would do such a thing. It isn’t going to help me advance in my current job, but maybe I could learn something that would help me or maybe I just do it for the sake of doing it. Then reality hits me and I have to ask when in the world would I make time for school amongst the other things I’m already doing? Something would have to give and I’d have to start practicing a lot more selective neglect.

The Diffley’s spoke tonight at branch prayer about relationships. It wasn’t the typical marriage talk, but they kind of continued from some things they had mentioned this afternoon. Whenever possible marry someone within your race and your religion. It makes things easier down the road, especially when children come into the picture. I’d like to think I can handle that, but sometimes I wonder at 27 if that is going to happen. I may have the house and the car for the family, but there is no family in what I can see. They shared the experience of their first date. Sister Diffley said it was the best first date she’d ever had. Paul was the perfect gentleman. They had a nice dinner in Balboa and then she said something about a place in Westwood that had an ice cream with something on top and he said let’s go! I thought that sounded so totally like me. Drive to Arizona for dinner? OK. Vegas for dessert? No problem.

They said you need to communicate well. There will be give and takes. You need some common interests and similarities. I agreed with everything they said. I was happy I went as I was considering not going so I could write to Tara and get to bed at a reasonable time. I still did write to Tara, and I’m not getting to bed when I should, especially considering my sleep deficit I already have from this past weekend. This probably isn’t going to help my resolve to get up early and get back in the habit of reading in the mornings.

This was the second Sunday in a row that I didn’t go to the Dowden’s. This time it was their fault! Sister Dowden wasn’t feeling well so she cancelled dinner. I couldn’t eat anyway, so I guess it didn’t matter. I was so starving when I came home from church, but nothing sounded good. I ate a bit of Maegan’s leftovers from Oscar’s, but they just weren’t cutting it. I guess I’m going to be trying a new diet of not eating much. I love food so much that it really gets to me when I don’t feel like eating.

I gave a lesson in elders quorum today on Elder Wirthlin’s talk “Come What May, and Love It.” When I first read it yesterday it wasn’t really speaking to me, but this morning I was getting all sorts of good things out of it and President Monson’s talk “Finding Joy in the Journey.” I didn’t have much time, so we only covered the first one briefly in elders quorum today, but I got the benefit of studying both of them! It is quite possible that my favorite story from conference was the one Elder Wirthlin shared of his daughter and the blind date that turned out to be there to pick up one of the other daughters for baby-sitting. He suggest we learn to laugh at things and not get stressed over the trivial things. I can think of many times when I’ve laughed things off. I love it when people are in such a hurry to get to the next red light! He also counsels that we should seek for the eternal instead of getting caught up in the moment. The parking spot doesn’t matter in the big picture. I’m a big believer in that good things come from adversity and our trials, which was his third point: the principle of compensation. Finally he suggests we “put our trust in our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ.” Sometimes this is the hardest one, but the hardest things also come with the richest rewards.

I also really enjoyed President Monson’s talk on fining joy in the journey. It reminds me of the song Simple Miracles performed by Emerson Drive:

It’s a dream that never dies
It’s the wonder in your eyes
it’s the magic in your touch
Every star and every wish
I wake each day and live
A life that’s filled with simple miracles

We really need to spend more time stopped and smelling the roses, enjoying a butterfly in flight and all the other simple miracles that surround us everyday.

I guess I might as well get used to it;
She’ll take her time ’cause I don’t mind
Waitin’ on a woman
(slightly modified from Brad Paisley’s Waitin’ on a Woman)

LDS.org – Whom Shall I Marry?

I was searching for this quote:

When the time for decision arrives,
the time for preparation is past.

and came across this article:

LDS.org – New Era Article – Whom Shall I Marry?.

I thought it was good reading and wanted to share it, obviously. I love the story where he uses the above quote, about needing to decide to do something and it being too late to be prepared. I guess it is true that we can’t put off the day of preparation, or the day of repentance for that matter.

I also like this line from Come, Come, Ye Saints: “Fresh courage take. Our God will never us forsake.” I’m not sure I had ever pondered it in the context to give you courage, but I’m sure that’s why it was written. I bet a lot of life could be made better with some fresh courage.

Two Weeks?

I tried take two on the blueberry muffins this morning. I cooked them at a lower temperature and checked on them every few minutes. The bottoms were still a bit overdone and the tops weren’t toasty yet, so I need to work on calibrating this oven definitely.

Church went well. David and I got some home teaching assignments fixed, so I feel like we are making progress there slowly but surely. Austin had a great talk today on testimonies. He shared some great stories to illustrate points from his mission. I really need to start taking notes or something because I can never seem to remember many of the details – or maybe I’m just too tired by this time of night.

Sister Dowden made some great french fries tonight. I’m sure the seasoning helped, but she did a great job frying nonetheless.

President Clegg touched on this during his instruction today (5th Sunday) and it was also the topic for branch prayer tonight. We talked about appropriate things to do on the Sabbath. The short answer is still whatever brings you closer to the Lord. This is one of those things that you must take in stages. I think a good answer to the question of if something should be acceptable to do on Sunday is it depends on what you would do with that time instead of the activity. If turning off the TV means you’re going to spend more time with friends and family, then yes. If the TV is keeping you from getting into bigger trouble then go for it. I keep thinking that I want to develop more missionary or activation type things to do on Sunday to better use my time, but seem to always fall short of implementation.

Carla made me go and get my camera at branch prayer tonight and then it seemed to be the night for people to talk about cameras. President Clegg is apparently looking to buy into the good stuff and Noelle seemed interested as well. PC also told the Skagg’s that I’m getting married in two weeks. This is news to me and I’m somewhat interested in who the unlucky lady is. He was talking about one of his nephews getting married last week, then a niece this next week and then he said Scott was getting married the following week. I figured he was referring to some other Scott, but learned quickly that he wasn’t. I guess we’ll see how this arranged marriage thing works.

On Edge

Today was interesting. I made blueberry muffins this morning for PEC, but they came out burned. I need to put a thermometer in this oven as I think it is cooking too hot or something. Everything seems to come out in way less time than has been required in the past. They were still OK, but they smelled way better than they tasted.

Things went fairly well at church today, but it just seemed like a day for things to go wrong or at least for people to be on the edge. It seemed that we got into it about having a meeting. We were just trying to purpose an alternate meeting date and venue, but people started to take things personally. I guess I’ll go try this meeting this week and see what it is all about and maybe I can talk some sense into people that we should be having all of our necessary meetings on Sunday and not waste time driving around and meeting during the week. If we have too many meetings, let’s eliminate them, not hold them on different days. I can’t understand why anyone would propose taking the missionaries away from their prime time of meeting with investigators or members to talk about how we are going to do the work. Let’s just get out there and do it!

I had dinner with the missionaries and the Lee’s tonight. The Lee’s made some amazing steak, probably the best non restaurant steak I’ve ever had. I’m looking forward to the left overs tomorrow or later in the week. I think I may have to finish off Maegan’s leftovers in the fridge first, before they go bad. This is going to be a short week at the office with only going in two days.

I was talking with the Lee’s today about various things and we got to my dilemma that I need to get married before I turn thirty so I can continue to work in the temple. It seems like so long from now, but also seems so soon. It’s only three years away. Brother Lee said that when he was being released from his mission he was essentially told that they expected him to be married within six months. As crazy as I think that is, I almost understand it. I guess things have changed a lot since then, but yet we still have these written or unwritten rules about ages we need to be married by. Maybe that would also help with my Christmas spirit which I can tell is already getting tried.

#YESon8 Victory

It appears that we have emerged victoriously! It was only by a narrow margin though and there are still votes to be counted, but with 100% of precincts reporting and we have a 52.5%, I think we are safe to say we won! I think they still have to count the absentee ballots which I guess could take up to a month.

I totally slept through my alarm this morning and was a little late to work, but it felt so good. We had a 53′ FedEx National LTL truck deliver a 2′ x 2′ x 2′ box to us today. The packing slip says it was sent on a pallet. It gets even better. Inside the box was a 3″ x 3″ x 10″ box without even any packing material! I think they could have sent it US Mail! I have pictures for the fun of it. I’ll have to post them later.

I enjoyed a quiet evening at home tonight. I bought Melissa’s plane ticket, watched some TV and talked on the phone. I really was pretty much just lazy tonight. I was able to talk Melissa into coming with me to Maui. I don’t think she has realized yet that this means she is stuck with me for the bulk of the week. I wonder when she will figure that out! The flight I’m on jumped to $1800 today, it is absurd. I booked her on a flight that was $570 by the time I got it booked, but was $360 or so earlier this afternoon. I guess I still haven’t learned that it pays to book flights early.

I discovered that my website is #4 for yeson8 and #5 for proposition 8 text. I’m sure I’m in the top results for other searches as well. The daily visitors on my site have about doubled over the past month. I’m sure it will die down here again soon.

I’m sure there was something else I wanted to write about tonight, but I need to get some sleep and stop writing. Good night to all and thank you for your support!

May Our Efforts Have Been Enough

Well, it is going to be too close to call tonight. As of 10:25 p.m. we’re looking at 29% of precincts reporting with 52.3% supporting a YES vote on Proposition 8 to protect marriage. I truly hope that our efforts will have been enough. I pray that the difference will be made up for us. I think we made our best efforts on this and I hope we emerge victorious in the morning and the coming days.

The fight has gotten really nasty in the last day. The home invasion video was so absurd. I called most of the Los Angeles and San Diego television stations on my way to the temple at 5 o’clock this morning and left messages for the advertising directors imploring them not to air the video. Since I wasn’t watching TV most of the day, I couldn’t tell you if they played them or not.

I had a good time at the temple this morning and was happy I was there and not somewhere else stressing about this proposition. I got to go through a session and then officiated for one. It was kind of nerve-wracking to officiate, but I heard I was a winner. Of course I have some things to work on, but I’m sure I can get it down shortly. I’m really bummed to be missing my shift next week. Sadly, I’m not looking forward to this vacation, but I’m sure after a few days I’ll be able to enjoy myself. It’s been a while since I’ve had some real time to myself I guess. I even looked at flights again tonight and they are too expensive now to consider bringing someone along. Actually, I guess that is just my flight. There are some other ones with a stop in Honolulu that could work I guess and maybe even some from SAN. I need to figure out that game-plan tomorrow. This may be your last chance, so speak now or forever hold your peace!

I also need to get to sleep. Didn’t I say i was going to get some sleep once this prop 8 thing was over? Well, I guess it isn’t over quite yet, so I haven’t broken any promises.

YouTube – “Home Invasion” Prop 8 #yeson8

This is a total joke. Yes, members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have donated money to protect marriage, something we believe in strongly. I also believe that much more money has been donated to the no on 8 campaign. Is there something wrong with Google standing out against Prop 8? How about Apple donating $100,000? Why is it OK for people to donate to and support the no campaign but not the yes campaign?

Truth is, Prop 8 won’t take away any rights. The US govt won’t accept same-sex unions, so the same rights are given in a civil union as in a marriage. This is an attack on religion. I believe this is an example of what is to come if prop 8 fails tomorrow. Those asking for tolerance are not capable of showing any tolerance themselves and have stooped so low to attack a church that is a first responder in almost every emergency and natural disaster. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is a huge giver to the community with big involvement in most humanitarian efforts.

YouTube – “Home Invasion”: Prop 8

I implore you to join me and vote YES on Prop 8 tomorrow. If you’re afraid of a small percentage of Mormon’s impacting your government and state, I tremble to think of what the opponents of prop 8 have in store for you. This video just shows a glimpse of the deception they are capable of.

Powerful Sunday

I can’t remember the last time that I had so much time in the morning before church. We set our clocks back an hour today, so I got an extra hour of sleep kind of and then didn’t have any meetings before church. I spent some time working on church things and also was blessed to be able to spend some time just pondering. I felt impressed to review my patriarcharcal blessing this morning and spent some time reminiscing the trip to Punta Cana last year with Tara. I remember how excited I was and how we totally had the time of our lives there. I leave for Maui this week and I am not looking forward to it. I can’t believe that I’m going to go to Hawaii for my first time all alone. I’m sure I will still be able to enjoy myself somewhat, but there is just no way of it comparing to the week that Tara and I had last year.

I’ve found myself really missing Tara this week actually. I’ve been pondering on her a lot. I think Cynthia reminds me a lot of her. They have a similar physical appearance and share many great qualities. I’ve also been feeling guilty about not writing her since before general conference. I did send her the postcard not from Minneapolis, but that doesn’t count much. I was planning on sending her a gift a few weeks ago and haven’t done that yet either, so I’m getting myself down and frustrated with that. Hopefully I can call this week and schedule something for Friday morning. I did write to her this morning which was great. I need to do that more for myself than I think I do for her. There is just something about writing a letter – or even a card – that I can’t seem to capture any other way.

I hadn’t looked at those pictures from the DR for some time now and am so happy that I took the time to make the book. I really need to do that more often. It also made me think of all the great pictures of friends that I need to print and hang.

I cried today when Andrea spoke during fast and testimony meeting and am doing it again now. She said that she had lost friendships over this prop 8 thing, but that she had learned so much and her love for the Lord had grown because of it, at least in my paraphrased version. What a fight this has been. I still can’t get over that 9% of our population is causing so much turmoil for the other 91%. A heavy price has been paid for this – our freedoms – just as it has been done so many times before. Was the war in Heaven something like this? I don’t think I’ve lost any friends over this matter, but that just makes me think that I have been too coward to act. I’ve been too afraid to really stand up for what is needed and need to learn from her. She also shared that her two best friends were her mom and dad and that touched me so much.

I had been thinking this weekend about sharing my testimony. Much like Andrea, I had kind of secretly been wanting to be called up in the last few weeks when people have been called to the stand. I had been thinking about what to say and trying to come up with something to share that could help someone else. I’d even rehearsed things in my head, but when I got to church it was all gone and while I felt that I could get up, I didn’t feel the need to. Maybe I’ll have the opportunity soon. This week really has been very spiritual for me. I feel like I was on the right track a lot of the time and I learned so much. Maybe it was the lack of sleep that brought me closer to my Heavenly Father, maybe it is the election drawing near, I don’t know. What I do know, now especially more than I did before, is that Proposition 8 needs to be passed or this fight is only going to get worse. What I don’t know is what the agenda is from the other side. I discovered last night that all the married rights they say they are getting from being married versus a civil union don’t transfer to other states and aren’t acknowledged by the federal government. They won’t say that they want to teach this in school and many people say that they don’t want anything about marriage taught in schools. So what is their agenda? I don’t know. I know that we can’t let 9% of America take away the rights of the remaining 91%. I know that temple marriage is ordained of God. Families can be sealed there together forever, not just for their mortal time on this earth. If prop 8 fails, this right to marry in God’s temple could be challenged. I know that the gospel is true, that Jesus Christ did atone for our sins, that he does live and reign today. His church is run by His prophet on the earth today, Thomas S. Monson. President Monson is supported by his counselors in the first presidency and the twelve apostles of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. These men have spoken as the mouthpiece of the Lord that we need to do all we can to make sure this measure passes. We may not know what is to come if it doesn’t, but I can assure you that they are aware of the dark and dreary place that we will be in if we continue down the slippery slope we are already falling down.

I really wanted to watch the CES fireside tonight. I was ready for the spiritual uplifting from it and was ready to learn even though I knew we were supposed to cancel all activities until after the election. I was fine with watching it by myself and then doing a public performance later. Clearly, my thinking was wrong because for whatever reason I was called in to the Dowden’s for tech support before even leaving the stake center today. They were having problems with their wireless and I was stuck there the entire time supporting people in making calls and getting computers running to do so. I’m sure now that is where I needed to be today; I just had to conform my will to that of the Father’s.

I just turned off about an hour ago in branch prayer. Megan even asked me if I was about to fall asleep and I had to say yes. I am so exhausted. This fight is starting to take it’s toll on me in the final hours and I need to stay strong. I’m anxious to see what this week will bring and looking forward to hopefully being victorious on Tuesday. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!

Standing Up for Prop 8: “I Hope You Know We’re Not Haters”

Here is an article from a couple that have been holding signs and promoting prop 8. They discuss why they are doing it and try to explain that prop 8 does not equal hate as many believe. It seems even from those that are against prop 8, they discovered the love of this couple after spending a few minutes together and not passing judgement.

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