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What Gay Unions Don’t Guarantee

We came across this article today which was rather informative. I had figured all this time that gay’s would be fighting for marriage so that they could reap the tax benefits and get all the benefits of a true married couple.

Well, according to this article, that won’t actually happen:

But given that the federal government views same-sex married couples as perfect strangers, ineligible for the many federal rights given to opposite-sex married couples, the question for gay couples is this: Is it worth it to tie the knot?

The Legal Advice Even Married Same-Sex Couples Need – NYTimes.com

So, my question comes back to, what do they gain out of this? We’re told they don’t care about teaching it in schools and making it mainstream. It seems that they don’t really get much more in the way of rights. So even if we fail to pass proposition 8, they will still not be truly married. So why do it? Why the fight? What is the real motive and what do they get out of it?

What Makes Marriage So Hard? | A Good Husband

In reading this blog today (from LDSNana) I realized I had never thought of the differences that would arise from me practically being an only child and marrying someone that could have a large family. I’ve always thought I liked the idea, but I had never thought about how hard it could be for my wife to adjust to having a quiet house at times. That’s (a quite house) something you just don’t get in a large family.

What Makes Marriage So Hard? A Reader Question | A Good Husband

There really are so many things to figure out that one couldn’t possibly even think of before the wedding. I guess this just points back to how important communication is. I have seen a few things fail from lack of communication, I would hate for that to happen in my marriage.

I was reading a conference talk Tuesday morning before going to the temple about being slow to anger. I totally can see this in my life and the difference between a cool headed person and one that lets everything get to him or her. I’ve been working on this a lot lately I think. I like to think that I’ve improved on this quite a bit since high school where I remember overreacting quite a bit. I’m sure there is still more work that I can do. I wish never to be angry or mad. We may get frustrated over things and we will certainly disagree at times, but it doesn’t have to get out of control.

As I was writing this, I heard “What I Can Not Change” by LeAnn Rimes. LeAnn Rimes - Family - What I Cannot Change Here is the chorus:

I will learn to let go what I cannot change
I will learn to forgive what I cannot change
I will learn to love what I cannot change
But I will change, I will change
Whatever I, whatever I can

I don’t think I’ve ever listened to the words of the song before and it came at a perfect time. There are tons of things we cannot change, including our spouses, so we need to just let go, forgive and love. I hope that I will be able to do this and may we all learn to be a little more forgiving and understanding in my prayer.

Hate On 8

If this is what tolerance looks like, I’d like some ideas of how we can be more tolerant of others who have beliefs differing from ours.

Graffiti on an LDS church building

Graffiti on an LDS church building

This is only a taste of what has been done and what is to come if we fail to pass proposition eight next week. Even if you don’t believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman, I implore you to consider voting yes on 8 to protect the freedoms that have been established and no longer promote intolerance like this.

I’m sure there was a post and more info that goes along with this story, but I couldn’t find anything on connorboyack.com.

Why ‘yes’ on Proposition 8? – Los Angeles Times

It’s simple: Government did not create marriage. Marriage is older than the U.S. Constitution, older even than the Bible or the Koran. Marriage’s deepest roots are in human nature and human experience. Marriage, as a judge on the Connecticut Supreme Court wrote in his compelling dissent to that court’s recent ruling allowing gays to wed, is rooted “in biology, not bigotry.”

Why ‘yes’ on Proposition 8? – Los Angeles Times

My Questions About Prop 8 In California

A friend of mine recently raised some excellent questions regarding proposition 8, the proposed amendment to the California Constitution to establish marriage as being only between a man and a woman. I think we all could benefit from pondering these questions before taking our vote to the polls next week.

The biggest question many seem to have is regarding what will be taught in the schools. After all, the actual text of the amendment doesn’t include any mention about education.

My Questions About Prop 8 In California

Anniversary Present

Looks like this will be another night where I will be getting less than six hours of sleep. I can tell it is really starting to get to me. As much as I have enjoyed staying up late talking and so forth, I really enjoy the inside of my eyelids! I was trying to get to bed early tonight, which I guess is good since I’m getting to bed at my normal time. Unfortunately, I have to get up at 4 o’clock in the morning.

Today was pretty quiet in the office. It seemed like I was able to get a lot done and I started working on clearing off my desk. Tonight was pretty crazy. I met Cynthia at the house for some cheesecake and then went home teaching with Kenny. We only got to visit Chris and then went to the Rodriguez’s for Adam’s “mission call.” The mission president has asked him to come serve with his son for the final three days of his mission. What an amazing opportunity! That so awesome!

So I probably took the marriage thing a bit farther than necessary today and sent Cynthia an anniversary present. I sent some flowers to her work in the short period she was there today.

(Picture from craftjuice.)

Happy Anniversary Sweetie

Cynthia and I went to the open house for the San Diego Temple Presidency tonight. We both thought it was a fireside for the incoming presidency, but it was an open house for the outgoing. We were expecting a big spiritual uplifting and instead got cookies. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Spiritual uplifting or cookies? Definitely the cookies, right? Well, sometimes it just isn’t what you expect.

In any event, this guy sat next to us who was hilarious. We had some chit chat and of course, he thought we were married. I guess the serving on different days and lack of rings didn’t clue him in. Cynthia and I kind of looked at each other and I think decided to go with it. At least he didn’t ask any questions we had to make up answers for. It might have been bad to lie at a temple function.

Well, in my usual fashion, I’ve let this get carried away and we’ve been continuing to play this up. We don’t have anyone to even play it up to anymore, but we have decided that today is our anniversary, our first anniversary that is. Because I’m a slacker and didn’t get her a present, I’m going to have to get working on that. it looks like the typical first year gift is stationary, so we decided on address labels – with my address because I pay the bills. Of course, I still have to make up for missing the anniversary and will do that later this week with cheesecake and a movie. Isn’t she amazing? How forgiving of her! She really is a winner! How did I get so lucky?

I guess we need to continue to work on our cover story if this is going to work out.

Protests at Oakland Temple

Protests at Oakland Temple

I just got this message on facebook. I have not confirmed any facts, but if it is true, I believe this is another sign of the persecution that will continue if prop 8 were to fail. We need to pass prop 8 to ensure religious freedoms and not open another can of worms.

I just received an email about protests outside the Oakland Temple that are interfering with and intimidating temple patrons. The local police are not responding well, so we need to appeal to a higher authority.

The protests are regarding California’s Proposition 8, which would define marriage as between one man and one woman.

Regardless of where you stand on the gay marriage issue, no one should be able to interfere with our temple privileges though disruption and intimidation. Please join us in praying for an end to the protests and the strengthening of the Church members in the Oakland Temple District.

Please spread the word by passing this on…

How same-sex “marriage” affects Massachusetts

This is a great article listing many of the things we have already seen in Massachusetts regarding gay marriage. This is about freedom, and that is why we need to vote YES on Prop 8 to protect our religious freedoms established centuries ago.

How same-sex “marriage” affects Massachusetts
Anyone who thinks that same-sex “marriage” is a benign eccentricity which won’t affect the average person should consider what it has done in Massachusetts. It’s become a hammer to force the acceptance and normalization of homosexuality on everyone. And this train is moving fast. What has happened so far is only the beginning.

Where’s the Love? – Yes on Prop 8 Yard Signs

And now for a taste of things to come! If opponents of Prop 8 can’t even be tolerant of our signs promoting Prop 8, are they going to be tolerant of our beliefs next month? I think not. This just shows me that we don’t even need to look at what’s happening in MA or kids going to a lesbian wedding on a field trip. This is totally a taste of the intolerance that we will be treated with if prop 8 fails.


YouTube – Where’s the Love? — Yes on Proposition 8 (Prop 8) – Yard SIgns