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How to Improve Family Relationships

In one of my meetings at church today Sister Rider presented some findings from an informal survey she conducted. I don’t remember the exact question she asked the young women, but I believe it was along the lines of if there was one thing your family could do to improve your relationship, what would it be? Out of the 27 young women she surveyed, twelve said something to the effect of holding family scripture study would improve their family. This was the most common item we saw. I believe the second most popular item was prayer in some form or another. What I was most shocked by though was an item that I heard about four times: less fighting, if my parents would stop fighting, …

I don’t know why because I see this all the time, but I was just shocked/appalled at how many of these young women reported their parents fighting as something that was inhibiting their family from coming together. I understand that there are lots of things that we can fight about as parents, but take a look at what it is doing to our children!

One thought that crossed my mind was how many young women wanted to say that, but were too afraid to and went with something more encompassing like holding family scripture study or family prayer. I have been so blessed with my wife to rarely fight. I certainly hope that we are able to keep our children from wishing that we fought less. (They will probably just wish like my wife that I left her alone more!) It just utterly scares me that 15% of young women in this sample reported issues with their parents fighting.

As for the main item of holding family scripture study, I think that is an honorable thing to ask. I’m sure the parents need more involvement from their children in making this happen. In fact, in another meeting with the youth today we asked them the same question and since we had a smaller group we were able to get more detail on it. Two of the youth in attendance said that while their families hold family scripture study and prayer daily, they didn’t feel that the family was really coming together and unified during this time. They felt that the task was being checked off a list instead of being an enjoyable activity to bring the family together. Clearly we need to work on improvement in this category as well.

I know that Megan and I need to continue to work on establishing habits now that we will instill in our children. For any other newlyweds out there, now is the time to figure out how you are going to establish your house of learning and house of faith.

What do you feel would bring your family together? Are there any tips you can offer to parents that may be spending too much of their precious time fighting?

Meet the Parents

First off, I’m not such a fan of waiting for Megan to drive home, but I do really like that it gives me some time to blog. We had our parents meet each other tonight at the Prosser’s house which I think worked out pretty well. They seemed to hit it off and I don’t think we came across any major road-bumps. I enjoyed having it at the Prosser’s and allowing them to get to know my parents as well and giving my parents a bit more of a glimpse into my life and that of the church.

Work went well today. I was only in the office for about half the day and then was driving around. Jenna and I talked about Megan and our marriage/relationship for a while. We seemed confident that things were going to work out. Jenna is getting married in a little under a year and I had expressed that there was no way I could wait that long. She told me that they are trying to save up to buy a house, so that’s the reason for waiting which makes sense to me. I’m glad that I have many of those things already straight in my life.

Megan and I were talking about jewelry for the wedding today. I rediscovered one of the things that I love about her. She is so sensible with money. She’s frugal, but not extreme. We were looking at bracelets for her and she kicked many out because they cost over $500. I love that she is so reasonable to understand that she’d rather have a $300 bracelet and a trip to Hawaii instead of a $5,000 bracelet.

It has come up more than once lately as to if we have had a real date. I’m not sure how to handle that question, because of course we’ve had tons of dates, but we certainly haven’t had a formal get dressed up kind of date. I’m not set on having one before we get married, but it would be kind of nice. Maybe I can arrange to take her to Wicked, although I kind of want to do that out of town. We have been talking about going to the drive in, but that wouldn’t require getting dressed up. Maybe we’ll have the opportunity next week while we are back east.

Megan made two suggestions last night which were great. I’d been thinking for a while that we needed to get better at praying together. It seems so often that we run to the end of the wick and fall asleep before we say our evening prayers, at least as formally as I’d like to. And I know that since she wakes me up in the morning, I often get out of the routine of my morning prayers. She suggested that we start praying together and also that we start reading scriptures together. I’m game for both suggestions, we just need to figure out how to actually make it work. We also have three books now to read together, so we’re thinking about each reading one alone and then passing it along. The problem I shared is that I don’t know when either of us is going to find the time to read at all.

I’m looking forward to going to the temple in the morning, but I’m not looking forward to going without any contact with Megan for that same time. I feel like I haven’t been in a while with not going last week, so I feel like I am long overdue. It sounds like I have some errands to run after the temple tomorrow. Tomorrow night we are getting fitted for our suits, getting some jewelry taken care of and hopefully spending some time with Melissa before she leaves for London.

Sense of Accomplishment

Today went well. I was able to set my mind to accomplish a few things at the office today and I feel good that I was able to check them off my list and not just push it onto someone else or farther down the list. I was able to spend my time well between the activities that needed to be accomplished and just felt like I was pressing forward. Of course some things that I would have liked to have gotten done didn’t get done, but I think in the end progress is being made and we just have to settle with it being where it is.

I left work about 5:30 to take packages to FedEx since our driver came before the UPS delivery today. I think it’s time to get rid of our daily pickup since it never seems to work out for us and we are just paying them to do nothing. In any event, after stopping at FedEx, i went to get my oil changed at Jiffy Lube while talking to Alison. I was thinking as I was driving way that we hadn’t been to Pat & Oscar’s in a long time so I stopped to get some bread for dinner – and to share at FHE. Mike gave a good lesson on not getting distracted from our prayers and then I came home to relax and watch some of the Oscar’s from last night.

Now I think it is time to put our FHE lesson into action, so I’m signing off.