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How to Improve Family Relationships

In one of my meetings at church today Sister Rider presented some findings from an informal survey she conducted. I don’t remember the exact question she asked the young women, but I believe it was along the lines of if there was one thing your family could do to improve your relationship, what would it be? Out of the 27 young women she surveyed, twelve said something to the effect of holding family scripture study would improve their family. This was the most common item we saw. I believe the second most popular item was prayer in some form or another. What I was most shocked by though was an item that I heard about four times: less fighting, if my parents would stop fighting, …

I don’t know why because I see this all the time, but I was just shocked/appalled at how many of these young women reported their parents fighting as something that was inhibiting their family from coming together. I understand that there are lots of things that we can fight about as parents, but take a look at what it is doing to our children!

One thought that crossed my mind was how many young women wanted to say that, but were too afraid to and went with something more encompassing like holding family scripture study or family prayer. I have been so blessed with my wife to rarely fight. I certainly hope that we are able to keep our children from wishing that we fought less. (They will probably just wish like my wife that I left her alone more!) It just utterly scares me that 15% of young women in this sample reported issues with their parents fighting.

As for the main item of holding family scripture study, I think that is an honorable thing to ask. I’m sure the parents need more involvement from their children in making this happen. In fact, in another meeting with the youth today we asked them the same question and since we had a smaller group we were able to get more detail on it. Two of the youth in attendance said that while their families hold family scripture study and prayer daily, they didn’t feel that the family was really coming together and unified during this time. They felt that the task was being checked off a list instead of being an enjoyable activity to bring the family together. Clearly we need to work on improvement in this category as well.

I know that Megan and I need to continue to work on establishing habits now that we will instill in our children. For any other newlyweds out there, now is the time to figure out how you are going to establish your house of learning and house of faith.

What do you feel would bring your family together? Are there any tips you can offer to parents that may be spending too much of their precious time fighting?

Meet the Parents

First off, I’m not such a fan of waiting for Megan to drive home, but I do really like that it gives me some time to blog. We had our parents meet each other tonight at the Prosser’s house which I think worked out pretty well. They seemed to hit it off and I don’t think we came across any major road-bumps. I enjoyed having it at the Prosser’s and allowing them to get to know my parents as well and giving my parents a bit more of a glimpse into my life and that of the church.

Work went well today. I was only in the office for about half the day and then was driving around. Jenna and I talked about Megan and our marriage/relationship for a while. We seemed confident that things were going to work out. Jenna is getting married in a little under a year and I had expressed that there was no way I could wait that long. She told me that they are trying to save up to buy a house, so that’s the reason for waiting which makes sense to me. I’m glad that I have many of those things already straight in my life.

Megan and I were talking about jewelry for the wedding today. I rediscovered one of the things that I love about her. She is so sensible with money. She’s frugal, but not extreme. We were looking at bracelets for her and she kicked many out because they cost over $500. I love that she is so reasonable to understand that she’d rather have a $300 bracelet and a trip to Hawaii instead of a $5,000 bracelet.

It has come up more than once lately as to if we have had a real date. I’m not sure how to handle that question, because of course we’ve had tons of dates, but we certainly haven’t had a formal get dressed up kind of date. I’m not set on having one before we get married, but it would be kind of nice. Maybe I can arrange to take her to Wicked, although I kind of want to do that out of town. We have been talking about going to the drive in, but that wouldn’t require getting dressed up. Maybe we’ll have the opportunity next week while we are back east.

Megan made two suggestions last night which were great. I’d been thinking for a while that we needed to get better at praying together. It seems so often that we run to the end of the wick and fall asleep before we say our evening prayers, at least as formally as I’d like to. And I know that since she wakes me up in the morning, I often get out of the routine of my morning prayers. She suggested that we start praying together and also that we start reading scriptures together. I’m game for both suggestions, we just need to figure out how to actually make it work. We also have three books now to read together, so we’re thinking about each reading one alone and then passing it along. The problem I shared is that I don’t know when either of us is going to find the time to read at all.

I’m looking forward to going to the temple in the morning, but I’m not looking forward to going without any contact with Megan for that same time. I feel like I haven’t been in a while with not going last week, so I feel like I am long overdue. It sounds like I have some errands to run after the temple tomorrow. Tomorrow night we are getting fitted for our suits, getting some jewelry taken care of and hopefully spending some time with Melissa before she leaves for London.

Hello 2009

Ready or not, here it is. The year 2009 is upon us. I’m not so sure I was ready and I’m not so sure it is off to the best of starts.

Let’s count the stupidity so far this year. I stayed up too late bringing in the new year on the computer and listening to my neighbor’s party till 2 in the morning when I finally went to sleep. I then got up too early and went to Disneyland with all the other crazies. To finish the first day, we rode splash mountain at 8 o’clock at night when it was 53 degrees. Let’s just say it was a cold ride home and ended the night for me with a splash. At least I got a free shower out of the deal. I then got up and went to work the next day. The girls said they wanted to work. The girls weren’t there. It was just me.

I got a great idea to go see the Rose Parade floats on display. Too bad they were only open 9-5 on Friday and Saturday. As I was working (the only one mind you) on Friday, that didn’t work out so well. As since I had to work a wedding today, there wasn’t enough time to go this morning. P.S. I learned that it wasn’t necessary for me to have worked this weeding, so I’m a little confused about that one.

I haven’t been reading my scriptures enough or anything along those lines lately, so I guess it’s a good thing I didn’t make that a resolution for this year. Maybe I should…. I have been enjoying reading the newspaper very much lately though. I had missed it and am so glad that I subscribed. I really am turning into my father in so many ways. I even found myself saving Tuesday’s paper when I didn’t have a chance to read it. If anyone ever sees large stacks of newspapers in my house that are waiting to be read, please throw them away for me.

Oh, yeah, so back to the wedding that I didn’t have to work today. If I hadn’t been scheduled for that, I probably would be hanging out in Idaho having fun this weekend. That also would have meant I wouldn’t have been at work yesterday. So, pretty much, it’s all the girls fault. Yep, I’m going to blame it all on them!

I’m kind of looking forward to getting to work now that all these holidays are over. I feel so lost with all these random days off and no consecutive days in the office. I think we are making progress on some fronts and I am hoping to have a very good year.

Well, before it gets to be tomorrow, I’m going to call it a night. Best wishes to all for 2009!

Scriptures

We had a great home evening lesson tonight on the scriptures. Alyssa shared how she has been able to better connect with the scriptures on a daily basis and I was just thinking recently how I’m doing my daily reading, but not always getting much out of it. I tend to have a hard time focusing and I think I need to spend more time pondering after reading. Maybe if I wasn’t so rushed to get the reading done and get on with the morning it would go better. Alyssa said that she started underlining different parts in different colors. I’ve never been one much for marking things in the scriptures, but maybe I need to try this out and see what I can learn. Maybe I just need to go back to writing about what I read like I was doing at BYUI.

I worked a full day today, and didn’t even leave the office till almost 5:30. We got wrapped up in meetings and such at the end of my day. Things were kind of slow, but good. I tried to spend some time clearing out some things that had been sitting around and finding my desk again. I need to get ready to take on the extra load from Tara being gone when she leaves for Boston on Wednesday.

I got some more entries into familysearch tonight after getting through the mail and other junk. I emailed my dad to see what info he already has so I don’t spend time trying to duplicate work that has already been done. It sounds like a lot of the stuff is hard copy, so I may have to make a trip down there to see what I can find.

I talked with Geoff tonight briefly about moving in. It sounds like he is really just looking for a quiet place to crash which is what I’m looking for as well! I need to ponder on it and come up with the house rules so we are all set from the get go and get him moving in.

Well, I think I’m going to try and get some sleep early here so maybe I can get up on time tomorrow and not be so rushed for my scripture reading. Good night to all!