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Our Love Story

Well, it has certainly been some time since I’ve taken the opportunity to write at all. In fact, ever since I met Megan I haven’t been so good at writing – I guess it’s just that we’ve been so busy and always had other things to do.

People have been asking for nearly a year now, and Cheesecake Factory finally made the incentive for me to write our love story down and submit it in their contest. Some of this has been covered, and some hasn’t, so I’m just going to try and get it all here in one spot for good!

Megan and I really met when Kenny invited her over to my house for movie night. I had some friends coming over to watch Twilight when it first came out on DVD. I should back up to say that we had kind of met a few weeks earlier at church, when we actually sat next to each other, but didn’t even so much as say a word to each other. The following week we spoke briefly at the Dowden’s, but the ice wasn’t really broken until the night she was here at the house. We started talking and I played her Brad Paisley’s new song, “Then.” I remember that Kenny and I were playing with iTunes DJ and she had started requesting a number of Brad Paisley songs, so I had to see if she had heard his latest. She instantly liked it. One of the other girls that was here, Ashley, was going to be having her birthday Tuesday and we were going to be going to Disneyland. I invited Megan to join us for dinner at Cheesecake Factory before.

When Tuesday came we met up at Cheesecake and then to my surprise she decided to join us afterward at Disneyland. We stayed up way too late that night and spent most of the evening talking. We started texting on our way home that night and the volume only went up from there. I was spending that week at the San Diego Temple for our semi-annual offering in righteousness where we spend most of the day there. So, I was up early the next morning and she was up early for work and we started talking each morning and each night on my way home from the temple. (It’s an hour long drive.) That Saturday I couldn’t decide if i was going to go to the temple or if I was going to call my week done and do something different. One way or another we ended up going to Disneyland – and of course going to Cheesecake Anaheim (with Teal as our waitress).

As what seemed to be par for our relationship, we were out way too late, especially considering the lack of sleep we’d had all week. Megan was going to spend the night at a mutual friend’s house – Sally & Bill (who incidentally had basically schemed this whole relationship) – but we didn’t get there till 2:15 Sunday morning! Unfortunately, they had left the house locked up so we had to try to break in instead of waking them up. After about a half hour of trying all sorts of things and talking about not wanting to wake people up, we finally called her mom who called to wake up Sally. That sure gave us interesting stories to be told the next day at church as I was currently serving in branch council with Bill.

After church on Sunday, she came back to my house where we sat and talked the evening away. We went to branch prayer came back to my house and threatened to have a pillow fight. At some point the evening ended and I decided to give her a night off on Monday. I guess I was worried that she would figure out that too much of me was a bad thing and I would scare her off. That Tuesday we were texting at work and she had eaten something spicy and thought she was going to die, or something to that effect. I asked her what she wanted to do for her last night here on earth – i.e. her last wish – and she couldn’t really come up with something. While I would have chosen Cheesecake, maybe we had just had too much, and she had mentioned this other restaurant Ancho’s previously. I suggested we try Ancho’s and then go go-carting, something else she had mentioned previously. Well, while we were planning all this Kenny showed up at my house, so he came along for the evening as well.

We had a great time and again were out too late. We were already planning on going to Disneyland the following day, April 1st. I actually had a friend who suggested the outing, so I started inviting people, including Megan. She told me that she had the day off from work. Well, long story short, it ended up just being the two of us at Disneyland that day. Since it was April fools day, I decided to tell facebook that she and I were married – and also to see how she would take it. I told her that facebook was being weird and that she needed to check it before we left. I don’t know what she thought – other than I was crazy – but she decided we could be married for the day and confirmed the relationship. We later started making up crazy stories that we were having our Disney fairy tale wedding that day and so forth. The one thing I regret doing was not buying her some kind of ring from Disneyland and putting it on her finger that day. We both were getting phone calls asking about what was going on. I don’t remember all that happened that day, but it was the day that I knew. It was also the second consecutive day that we would always see each other from there on out.

The following day we had no plans to be together, but at the last minute she came down for institute, a scripture study class we have at church. That was the day that I knew my feelings weren’t completely off base and she must have felt something back. We already had plans that Friday night to watch a movie, so she came down. That weekend was our church’s general conference where we watch various sessions on television, so she stayed in Murrieta so we could watch conference together. She invited me to dinner with her family on that Saturday, so we went there and I went to priesthood session with her father. We stayed and played games where I got to meet the whole family. Talk about intimidating: They were asking me all the questions!

Sunday we were back watching conference and we had plans to take Monday off. I was still worried about scaring her away. Well, another Cheesecake fanatic fan of mine called me up and said, “let’s go to Cheesecake,” the four magic words to which I immediately reply, “Let’s go!” I, of course, called up Megan and informed her that she was not going to be getting the night off after all. We haven’t had a night off since that Tuesday, thankfully, to date.

Back when I was trying to fulfill her last wish the previous week, she had mentioned something she doesn’t even remember. Brad Paisley’s Then was playing in the car and she said something to the effect of how she’d love to hear him sing it live. At the time, Brad was going to be playing at Stagecoach festival and I was thinking that would be a great place to propose. I guess my timeline wasn’t fast enough though and I got the hint that week to speed things up. We looked at some rings so I got an idea of what she wanted and decided Friday to call Zales and tell them to get the ring ready. I had that ring burning a hole in my pocket Friday night, all day Saturday when we went to Sea World and then Sunday morning. I had planned an Easter egg hunt for Megan Sunday and told her about it earlier.

We went to her parents for church Easter Sunday morning, and then had brunch at their house with the whole family. We rushed back to Murrieta to go to the singles ward here and I told her that I needed to swing by the house to get my stuff together. She wanted just to stay in the car, but I told her that I needed a few minutes and it would be a good time for her to do her Easter egg hunt. I had made most of the eggs fairly easy to find, and they all had a slip of paper in them. Most of them were lyrics to our song, Then. When she put them in the right order, it spelled out the location of the remaining egg. It spelled out pancake. So, she looked in the fridge and didn’t find an egg. Then she looked in the pantry and still no egg. She was starting to give up when she realized the pancake griddle was on the counter, not it’s normal spot. She looked all around it and didn’t find anything. I asked if she knew it had a drawer at which point she started pulling it out. By the time she had the egg opened, I was down on one knee behind her. I asked her to be my wife as she pulled the ring out of the egg.

Needless to say, we were way late for church. And there wasn’t anything that I needed from the house, other than for that ring to be on her finger and not burning a hole in my pocket! She totally wasn’t expecting it because I had led her to believe it was coming in a few more weeks and she knew I wouldn’t pop the question until I had asked her dad. What she didn’t know was that I had been trying to work up the courage to ask him – and find the time to do so – all morning long! I lingered and stalled at their house that morning trying to get him alone. It wasn’t done the way I planned it, but it worked out just fine. (I was planning to ask him the following week at the Redlands Temple.)

So, we really met March 21st and were engaged April 12th. There were a few more trips to Cheescake Factory over the coming months (I had the help of Discover Card in figuring out our timeline of dining at the Cheesecake Factory.) It was pretty much non-stop tlll the wedding. Megan went looking for dresses the next weekend while I was at a sealing, then I went to the Redlands temple with her parents, where I was planning on asking for her hand in marriage. We took a trip to Arizona to visit my grandma (and get a box she had been holding for me). During the trip we went horseback riding at the OK Corral. Then we were taking engagement pictures in Laguna Beach – followed, of course, by the original Cheesecake Factory that I had wanted to go to for a LONG time in Redondo Beach.

The next weekend we were shopping for cakes and then we were off to Pennsylvania and West Virginia for a week where we visited the Cheesecake Factory in Pittsburgh and Brad Paisley’s hometown of Glen Dale, WV. May 30th we were back in Redondo Beach at the Cheesecake Factory after going to the Point Fermin Lighthouse to scatter my mom’s ashes, something else I had been meaning to do for a long time. Her bridal shower was the following weekend, followed by her endowment. On the last free weekend she took her bridal portraits and we were busy with other things.

We were married June 26th in the Los Angeles Temple. Unfortunately, there was no Cheesecake involved, but we did stop at Chic-fil-a for a snack on our way home. Our reception was the following day and on our way to our honeymoon, you can bet our first stop – and our first real out to dinner meal was at the Cheesecake Factory Pasadena.

We had a lovely honeymoon in Santa Barbara at the Fess Parker Doubletree Resort. We spent a few days there exploring before going further north, but called it and came home early. (We were probably running low on Cheesecake after all that wedding cake.)

There’s lots to say from there, but I think I’m going to quit while I’m ahead today.

Getting Close

So it has been well over a month since I’ve even taken a few minutes to journal. That is the one thing that I would go back and change over the past few months. I wish I had taken the time to write much more. Apparently my Twitter integration on my website has been down for about that long, so those blogs haven’t even been posting!

Things are going good. Megan and I are getting married in 8 days and 14 hours. I really can’t wait for it all to be over and for us to be married, sealed together for time and all eternity. I probably could have done without all this hoopla, but I’m fairly certain that if we can make it through all this mess we won’t have much of a problem with life.

I’ve been really busy at work. I haven’t been able to catch up since we got back from West Virginia/Pennsylvania. I’m trying to hold my emails to 630-something and I still have about 300 that I haven’t even read. I’m really trying to do my best to get caught up before I leave for the honeymoon as I don’t want any of that being in the back of my mind while we are relaxing.

Speaking of the travels, we had a great time and loved all that time together. I still can’t believe she wasn’t sick of my by the end of the week.

I finished reading the book Sister Dowden recommended, Beloved Bridegroom. I found that it was more of a temple prep book than a marriage prep book as it was more focused on the marriage of Christ to His church, us. I did really enjoy it and there were some great comparisons to the marriage that Megan and I will be entering into next week. I found many of the old traditions very interesting to learn about.

I’ve started reading this new book, First Comes Love, which President Clegg gave us. It has some good advice in there, but I haven’t really come across anything new. Sometimes it is just good to hear the same thing again. I know I can be a slow learner.

I’m so lost as to what to do for our honeymoon. I wanted it to be a surprise to Megan, but then I decided to let her in on the basics of the plans to make sure it was what she wanted to do. Of course, she says whatever I plan will be fine. The plan is to drive up the coast and stay at a few different places. I was thinking on my drive home tonight though that maybe we shouldn’t spend two nights at three places and instead we should spend three nights at two places or something like that. I don’t know how often we’re going to want to be changing locations. Maybe I should just pick a central spot and we can be done with it too.

Megan received her endowments this past Saturday.

Megan made President Smith cry when he learned that we both had been true to the law of chastity. He said that so few people at our age, even members of the church, have been able to save themselves for their marriage. I can’t imagine it any other way.

We haven’t been doing very good with out question book and probably aren’t going to get through all the questions before we get married unless we really get our act together and start getting through them.

I’m not really looking forward to this weekend or many of the pieces of next week. While it will culminate in a great event, I’m going to go my first Saturday without seeing Megan for most of the day. She has bridal portraits and so will be getting hair and makeup done before she takes them in the early afternoon and then has lunch planned with her mom and Sally. It will probably be late afternoon or early evening before I even get to see her. I know I have lots to do around the house, I’m just sad. The other thing is that I probably won’t get to see her at all next Wednesday and Thursday. She’s going to have a bachelorette party on Wednesday night and then Thursday will be busy with getting things done for the wedding. I understand I’m supposed to pick her up on the way to the temple on Friday morning, but can you seriously imagine me going from Tuesday night to Friday morning without so much as seeing her?

This could be too much for me… I’m going to cry myself to sleep now.

Meet the Parents

First off, I’m not such a fan of waiting for Megan to drive home, but I do really like that it gives me some time to blog. We had our parents meet each other tonight at the Prosser’s house which I think worked out pretty well. They seemed to hit it off and I don’t think we came across any major road-bumps. I enjoyed having it at the Prosser’s and allowing them to get to know my parents as well and giving my parents a bit more of a glimpse into my life and that of the church.

Work went well today. I was only in the office for about half the day and then was driving around. Jenna and I talked about Megan and our marriage/relationship for a while. We seemed confident that things were going to work out. Jenna is getting married in a little under a year and I had expressed that there was no way I could wait that long. She told me that they are trying to save up to buy a house, so that’s the reason for waiting which makes sense to me. I’m glad that I have many of those things already straight in my life.

Megan and I were talking about jewelry for the wedding today. I rediscovered one of the things that I love about her. She is so sensible with money. She’s frugal, but not extreme. We were looking at bracelets for her and she kicked many out because they cost over $500. I love that she is so reasonable to understand that she’d rather have a $300 bracelet and a trip to Hawaii instead of a $5,000 bracelet.

It has come up more than once lately as to if we have had a real date. I’m not sure how to handle that question, because of course we’ve had tons of dates, but we certainly haven’t had a formal get dressed up kind of date. I’m not set on having one before we get married, but it would be kind of nice. Maybe I can arrange to take her to Wicked, although I kind of want to do that out of town. We have been talking about going to the drive in, but that wouldn’t require getting dressed up. Maybe we’ll have the opportunity next week while we are back east.

Megan made two suggestions last night which were great. I’d been thinking for a while that we needed to get better at praying together. It seems so often that we run to the end of the wick and fall asleep before we say our evening prayers, at least as formally as I’d like to. And I know that since she wakes me up in the morning, I often get out of the routine of my morning prayers. She suggested that we start praying together and also that we start reading scriptures together. I’m game for both suggestions, we just need to figure out how to actually make it work. We also have three books now to read together, so we’re thinking about each reading one alone and then passing it along. The problem I shared is that I don’t know when either of us is going to find the time to read at all.

I’m looking forward to going to the temple in the morning, but I’m not looking forward to going without any contact with Megan for that same time. I feel like I haven’t been in a while with not going last week, so I feel like I am long overdue. It sounds like I have some errands to run after the temple tomorrow. Tomorrow night we are getting fitted for our suits, getting some jewelry taken care of and hopefully spending some time with Melissa before she leaves for London.

Cake Tasting

I really didn’t feel like going to work on Friday. I just wanted the weekend to come so I could spend time with Megan. We were supposed to be meeting up with my parents to celebrate mother’s day, but Susan ended up being sick, so Megan and I went alone to Lucille’s BBQ. After that we went to the campout with the branch, but didn’t find all that much going on there. We sat by the fire and talked for a while as well as ate some cobbler and then decided to high tail it out of there. We didn’t want to get caught being there past ten when they lock the gates. We came back tot he house and made some chocolate covered strawberries to eat while we watched One Tree Hill.

We had cake consultations on Saturday. The first was at Jodee’s Bakery which I’ve worked with before at Grand Tradition. Her cakes were really good, and we both really liked this almond poppy-seed with cream cheese and raspberry frosting. The cake turned out a bit more expensive than we were hoping for, but I think we’re going to get it figured out how to get it from there as we don’t have any other options to pursue at this point. We had a second appointment at Tasteful Cakes in Corona. They had some interesting products, but we weren’t as impressed with them and it seemed that they were not really going to be any cheaper.

We went to Ashley and looked at bedroom sets and then picked up dinner at Costco for the crew that was going to assemble our wedding invitations with us. We worked on those for a few hours and then after everyone left Megan and I went and sat in the spa for a while. It was pretty nice just hanging out with her and talking.

Today I slept in till about 9:30 and then didn’t get out of bed until about 11 to get ready for church. We went to church with her parents and I didn’t see nearly as many people looking for her wedding ring to figure things out with us. It was so lividly hot in there though I had to take my jacket off and wasn’t sure I was going to make it even then. Fortunately Megan’s dad was able to go out and fix the problem so we started getting some air in Sunday School. We had dinner with her family and hung out there for most of the day. We just came back to my house to fetch her car and she should be calling me any minute now so I can go to sleep! Good night to you all.

The Game is Over

Wow. It seems like it is so hard to find the time to write, even just to sleep with all that has been going on lately. What I really feel bad about though is that this is the time when I really need to be writing about all that has been going on. This is the biggest and best time of my life to this point and yet I’m not doing a good job of recording it. I haven’t even been tweeting much because I’ve just been so fully engrossed in Megan that I don’t want any distractions.

Things have really been going great. It pains me to be away from her, and the same is true of her for me. We’ve just been so busy with wedding plans and trying to have some fun on the side. We went two weekends ago to Arizona to get that box from my grandma and had a great time. I took her horseback riding Saturday morning which was just great and we had an awesome time just hanging out with each other and not having to be without the other. This past weekend we took our engagement pictures which turned out great and then went to Cheesecake Factory in Redondo Beach before meeting up with some family members of hers. We then met Ashley and Kenny at Disneyland.

We’ve been working on registering for wedding gifts and have now done that at Crate & Barrel, Target and Macy’s. They are all still works in progress, but at least we are getting somewhere. We just went to Victoria Garden’s to register at Crate & Barrel last night and went to the Cheesecake Factory there. That’s two new Cheesecake’s in like five days. And we went to Rancho Mirage on our way to Arizona! What is there not to love about a girl that takes me to new Cheesecake Factory’s?

President Clegg told us when we met with him a few weeks ago “the game is over” and I’ve been pondering that for some time now. It really is. There are no what-ifs for me. It’s a done deal and I’m ready to be sealed to Megan for time and all eternity in 49 days! I’m so glad that we moved the wedding up and I can’t possibly even begin to imagine how crazy and tired each of us would be if this had dragged out any longer.

Heartland, I Loved Her First Lyrics

Megan was looking for a song for her daddy-daughter dance Monday night and I saw this one on the list and remembered how much I loved it. I quickly downloaded it from iTunes, played it for her and she was sold. I’ve found myself signing it constantly since then and I’m hoping that I can dance with our daughter to this song on her wedding day!

I Loved Her First, as performed by Heartland:

Heartland - I Loved Her First - Single - I Loved Her First

Look at the two of you dancing that way
Lost in the moment and each others face
So much in love you’re alone in this place
Like there’s nobody else in the world
I was enough for her not long ago
I was her number one
She told me so
And she still means the world to me
Just so you know
So be careful when you hold my girl
Time changes everything
Life must go on
And I’m not gonna stand in your way

I loved her first. I held her first.
And a place in my heart will always be hers
From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
And I prayed that she’d find you someday
But its still hard to give her away
I loved her first

How could that beautiful woman with you
Be the same freckle face kid that I knew?
The one that I read all those fairy tales to
And tucked into bed all those nights
And I knew the first time I saw you with her
It was only a matter of time

I loved her first. I held her first.
And a place in my heart will always be hers
From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
And I prayed that she’d find you someday
But its still hard to give her away
I loved her first

From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
Someday you might know what I’m going through
When a miracle smiles up at you
I loved her first

modified from CoyboyLyrics.