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Words of Wisdom

Lauren’s Shopping Carts

Now, in big news of the day: Lauren went grocery shopping!

OK, actually she has this analogy of shopping carts to people, check it out:

Steimle ♥’s Wright.: Aren’t We All?

I just have one question: which kind of shopping cart am I?

Further, do we reject people because they look funny just like we do shopping carts? Or my favorite that I am guilty of is rejecting something because it has a piece of trash or something left in it. It’s dirty, it can’t be a good cart. After the search for a great looking cart, do we find that there is something wrong beneath the surface – like a squeaky or dumb wheel? We did it to our-self though I guess. The “dirty” cart probably was in perfect condition and all it would have taken was for me to throw away the flier that was left inside.

On that last matter though… Have you ever considered how dirty a shopping cart really is? I mean, do they ever get cleaned or sanitized? Let’s track this a bit farther. I touch the cart which has never been cleaned (we won’t even examine where it has been), then pick something up and put it in the cart. When I’m done shopping, I push the cart to my car and unload everything. I then get in my car. I’ve now touched many parts of my car as well as all the boxes of stuff I just bought and they are all contaminated.

Quickest Route to a Heavy Heart

Well, just in case it wasn’t already official, I’m old. I’m getting older as we speak.

Ryan and I went for a ride this morning. It didn’t almost kill me like it did last week, so we’re making improvements. Now, if we could just get a schedule and stick to it we might be able to make some progress. Work went fairly well. I ended up having to run out at 5 when a customer called and I had to drive something to FedEx to get it shipped for him, so that got me home early and ended the debate of what I was going to do tonight. Since I was already in my car and basically at the freeway, I decided to drive on home.

I actually found another live person on the GTARC repeater this evening. I recently decided that I was going to set out to find someone else on there, so I’ve started calling out when I’m in the area. I found a guy, John, today who was thinking the same thing – that no one ever uses the repeater and we needed to make it more active.

I had a real quiet evening at home. Matt got his new DVR today, so he was happy. I spent some time on facebook, ate some cake and sat down to watch a movie. I watched Sky High. I wasn’t expecting too much from it, but I enjoyed it. As usual, the main character was such an idiot and couldn’t see what was right in front of him until it was made blatantly obvious to him. I wonder if we do the same thing. Are we characters in a movie and people are sitting at home watching us on the screen saying hey idiot, can’t you see such or don’t you realize that? I guess you just have to love how hindsight is 20/20. I’m sure I do similar stupid things on a regular basis – how come you all aren’t telling me what an idiot I am and how I can’t see what is right in front of me?

Warren Peace says to Layla at one point: “to let true love remain unspoken is the quickest route to a heavy heart.” It was quickly followed by, “and your lucky numbers are…” It may not always work out well for us when we tell people how we really feel, but what’s the point in hiding it? Many people will see it, but the one that it matters to may be blind. Sure, it may be awkward, but do some critical analysis, what do you really have to loose? At most, maybe something you never had and were only dreaming of. What do you have to gain? Pretty much, just, the world. You’ll never know if you don’t come out and say it.

I typically hate birthdays because I’m just not one for the attention and I hate giving and/or receiving gifts just because it is one of those times. I must admit though that Bouse generally comes up with great ideas. The Apple stock was classic a few years ago. Today he had an edible bouquet delivered – of fruit! It was quite good. I enjoyed some chocolate covered strawberries this afternoon and am looking forward to working through it some more tomorrow. Batch also brought me some new chocolate which was quite good. And, no birthday could be complete without an ice cream cake which Nathaniel got while picking up lunch.

Where I was trying to go with that last paragraph was that what I do like about birthdays (and other holidays) is it gives us an excuse to talk to people we don’t get to talk to on a regular basis. I got all sorts of random text messages, phone calls, emails, etc from people today who I haven’t heard from in a while. I got to talk to Dale Buzza the other day on his birthday. It’s probably the only time we talk each and every year, but it gives us a few minutes to catch up. That much I do like, and I got to hear from Ashley who I haven’t talked to in a few months.

Well, seeing as how I need to help hold the fort down the rest of the week, I’d better get my old self to sleep. I’m getting too old to stay up late and make it to the office on-time. Oh wait, I’ve always had a problem with that!

Shift Happens – Did You Know 2.0

Another link I found from Joel Dehlin that turned out to be quite interesting:

YouTube – Did You Know 2.0

This reminded me of a video we watched in my Leadership Class at CSU Fullerton. It is mind boggling how some things change the world. We really do need to prepare for the future and we have to solve the problems we created years before with new thinking.

The world is changing rapidly and not just with technology. The United States is not going to be #1 forever and we’re probably going to have some interesting changes ahead of us.

Let’s try and leave the world a better place for our children and grandchildren. Please.

Joel Dehlin: Internet Activity Around President Hinckley

Joel Dehlin, CIO of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, posted an interesting summary of some of the recent happenings regarding President Gordon B. Hinckley’s passing. Many of them were things I probably already knew, but hadn’t realized and I hadn’t seen some of the links he presented.

Joel Dehlin: Internet Activity Around President Hinckley

In the video of the youth dressing in their Sunday best and speaking about President Hinckley,  one of the girls quoted him saying, “See the sunlight through the clouds.” First off, this is an interesting tie in with the weather we had in the surrounding days. It is also one of those phrases that almost encapsulates President Hinckley. I think he saw the good in everything. If we could find the good in all things we would be much happier people and that in turn would improve the world.

Glenn Beck – President Hinckley

“We can all learn a lot…”

Glenn Beck – Faith & Inspiration – Glenn’s Tribute to the late LDS President Hinckley

I must be honest and say that I don’t even know who Glenn Beck is, but this two minute segment from his show was very touching. We can all learn a lot from the life of President Gordon B. Hinckley and the impressions he has left with us.

Proving God Correct

President Smith said in conference Saturday night that we don’t need to live our lives wrong to prove that God is correct, we could live our lives in accordance with his plan to prove him right. I know I don’t have the exact words, so maybe someone can tell me specifically what he said.

I was pondering this over breakfast this morning and thinking that sometimes I live as if I know everything is true, but I don’t press forward as such. It’s almost like it will come out in the end, no need to verify it now.

I’ve told people before that even though I now the Church is true, I also know that it wouldn’t hurt to follow the guidance of the Church even if it wasn’t true. We’re good people, teaching good morals and standards, learning to be more Christlike. If it isn’t true, are we doing anything that hurts us? I certainly don’t think so.

I don’t know where I was going with this, nor do I know if any of this makes any sense whatsoever, but I hope that we can press forward proving ourselves and our God right, not following the hypothesis test that it hasn’t been proven yet.

Better Prepared to Press Forward

There was so much to think about from today that I don’t even know where to start. In fact, I couldn’t even come up with something good to say that stuck out at me at branch prayer this evening. I knew I shouldn’t have gone! I was actually thinking that so much of it seems like the same old thing we keep hearing, but I didn’t really want to say that tonight to everyone. I think it’s true though. At first I had the take that we know all this, why keep telling us, aren’t we doing a good job already? As I pondered, I realized that we keep getting told the same thing because we haven’t quite got it figured out yet and someone is hoping that if they explain it enough times that it will finally sink in. It’s good because each time someone talks about a subject we do generally learn something because either new information is presented or it is presented in such a way that it gives us new inspiration or it suddenly clicks. For example, the statistic that the average melchizedek priesthood holder goes to the temple only three times a year is disturbing. I know that everyone isn’t equal, so some are going frequently and others are not going at all. Some may not even have current recommends or be worthy or hold one, but we clearly need to improve on this.

We were asked to continue to prepare for emergencies this morning. This was good timing after the fires in October and hopefully will call many people to action. President Smith, I believe, said that he had been preparing for earthquakes, but hadn’t thought about the impact of a fire. After our opportunity to evacuate I believe I am better prepared, but know that I still have a long way to go. We had more about living within our means I think (although I could be confusing this from last night – I didn’t get enough sleep). Either way, I thought about it some more today. There are definitely some steps I can take to cut my expenses to save for the future (and emergencies) and provide more in offerings.

The Sister from the Young Women’s Presidency talked about observing the Sabbath and how we need to make decisions about what is appropriate and what is not – we can’t expect someone else to give us those answers. She gave an example of a brother who was hoping she would grant him permission to run a marathon on the Sabbath because it wasn’t offered at any other time. He ended up receiving blessings after running it alone, in traffic, on the Saturday before the actual marathon. He later got to come to Salt Lake for general conference and was able to run a marathon in St. George the weekend after. Of course we can’t see what is in front of us sometimes, but we need to do our best to follow the guidance of our prophets and press forward with the faith that we will be blessed by doing so.

The fireside tonight was on marriage and preparing for it. Elder Tingey said we aren’t going to find perfection because it doesn’t exist (at least not in our reach). He challenged us as a step in preparing to ask someone who would tell us honestly what we could do to improve our physical appearance. I’m not sure I completely understand the weight of this question, but maybe with some more pondering it will be more than a hysterical remark and instead can be a thought provoking question leading the participants to growth and improvement.

Hopefully someone will remind me of the other important things that were mentioned because my brain in turning off…

Consistent

So it’s way late, but I shouldn’t go to sleep without writing down at least some rough thoughts from stake conference this evening. I probably shouldn’t have gone to Claim Jumper with the Dowden clan, but why mess with tradition. I need to be up in like 5 hours to be back at church for the general session tomorrow.

President Smith pressed consistency with which we do things. This would include temple attendance and reading among others. We had a good talk on fasting and also talks on provident living, specifically keeping ourselves debt free (or getting out of debt) and paying a full tithe and offerings. We were encouraged to fast for 24 hours from midday to midday, which makes more sense to me than what I had been under the impression most people were doing – fasting after dinner Saturday till dinner Sunday. If we go from lunch Saturday to dinner Sunday we may really be going without three meals, not just the two required, but we will be pressing forward with more faith and making a bigger sacrifice.

Thoughts on Elder Ballard: Using New Media

Sister Dowden pointed out to me the other day this talk given at BYU-Hawaii’s graduation last month. I had heard about it, and read excerpts, but never taken the time to read and ponder it in full.

Elder M. Russel Ballard: Using New Media to Support the Work of the Church

LDS Newsroom Article: Apostle Urges Students to Use New Media (excerpts and commentary)

He asks, “How will you use these marvelous inventions? More to the point, how will you use them to further the work of the Lord?” The easiest thing to do with these marvelous inventions is to have fun and enjoy using them, but couldn’t we try to be mindful of the good news that we could be sharing at the same time? Maybe the easiest thing to do is just be thoughtful of how our actions may affect others and the example that we are setting for others to follow. Like some of the email fowards say, it is easy to forward on a joke, but will you forward something testifying of Christ? I don’t think you need to try and shame anyone into sending that message forward, but let’s be open about it.

Do you represent yourself to be a Christian, even a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints? Do you hide things that could be faith or testimony builders to others? I know I have had problems with some if not all of these. Today I’m proud to post on facebook and other sites that I am a member of Christ’s Church restored in these latter days. I am thrilled to post pictures from trips to Salt Lake and church activities. I know that people see pictures and things that I write and at least desire sometimes to be part of that fun. If someone reading this is interested in joining us, please know that you are always welcome, even if you don’t explicitly get an invitation.

Brooke setup an event on Facebook this morning (or late last night) promoting a trip to the temple to do baptisms. Sister Dowden beat me to saying it, but what a great use of the Internet and social networking (facebook). She took the extra time to put information on the event page about the reason we do baptisms which could prove useful to someone who stumbles across the page. Wouldn’t it be great for our friends to look at what events we are going to, wonder what this baptisms/temple trip is about and then read to find out why we are going? I don’t know what Brooke’s motivations were for putting that on there, but I commend her for her efforts and hope I am inundated with event requests for things like that! Maybe we need to do an event for each activity we have in the branch and try to invite everyone, even non members friends to join us. I know it could be good, but would there be something better?

Elder Ballard tells that one member shares his efforts of missionary work on his blog daily. Maybe in addition to thinking of where we have seen the work of the Lord in our day we can give examples of the missionary service we participated in. Maybe these examples will help others of our faith find a way to share with others. Maybe something in our text will help someone find the Church when they are searching Google. Maybe sharing a brief testimony everyday will help some reader to learn of the Truth.

I know I for one don’t like talking about my weaknesses, but maybe I need to more often discuss how I have been able to overcome them with the help of the restored gospel: the Church, priesthood, blessings, etc.

Eldar Ballard says:

Use stories and words that they will understand. Talk honestly and sincerely about the impact the gospel has had in your life, how has it helped you overcome weaknesses or challenges, and helped define your values. The audiences for these and other New Media tools may often be small, but the cumulative effect of thousands of such stories can be great. The combined effort is certainly worth the outcome if but a few are influenced by your words of faith and love of God and His son Jesus Christ.

I can tell you that my blog and it’s readers had something to do with me joining the Church. I’m sure it’s happened elsewhere as well. Look back to April-May-June 2004 and I’m sure you’ll find some interesting tidbits. Maybe my blog can have the opportunity to do good work again with someone else reaping the benefits.

I know that I could help demystify the work of the church to non member through my blog. Too often I write about things in my personal journal but then delete them before posting for reasons I don’t necessarily understand. I will try from this day forward to promote the things we actually do so that readers can understand and have a clearer picture. I would love to clear up the confusion between temples and chapels/meetinghouses.

Sister Dowden, thank you for reminding me to read this article and to ponder it in more depth than I previously had when I caught a glimpse of it through the Church news bulletin.

If anyone has questions about the Church or some activity, please don’t hesitate to post a comment or email me directly. If you don’t want to discuss it with me, call the Church where someone would be happy to discuss it with you. And if you want more information about joining us, please let me know as well.

I do testify that this is the True Church of Christ, restored through the prophet Joseph Smith. President Gordon B. Hinkley directs and guides some 13 million members of the Church today here on earth as a prophet of the Lord. We have the priesthood authority and the ordinances necessary to bring us back to our Father in Heaven, all we need to do is Ask and follow his counsel. The Book of Mormon is true and blessings will come to those who follow it’s teachings and seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Quotes from Og Mandino

Myspace.com Blogs – Quotes from Og Mandino – Megan MySpace Blog

Three of these stood out to me:

I have never heard anything about the resolutions of the apostles, but a good deal about their acts.

Setting goals is great, but moving forward with them is so much better. I fear that I am guilty of spending too much time setting goals or making to do lists, but then I never accomplish them. Then I sink into the feeling that since nothing ever gets done, why bother. That feeling is obviously wrong. It needs to be done and it needs to start with an example from me!

Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread: remade all the time, made new.

I like to think of love as a verb – it needs work.

There is an immeasurable distance between late and too late.

So the real question now comes: Am I just late or too late for work each morning? Seriously now, that is profound. I don’t think I’ve considered the difference between those enough. I’m definitely guilty of being late to many things – and I’m referring here to late to act or late to praise, not being late to work, but it is generally better late than never. On the other side, there is a time when the opportunity has passed and never comes because one was too late.

May we all act with love before it is too late, is my prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

License to Wed & The Wednesday Letters

Salt Lake Temple at ChristmasI feel like a total bum. I haven’t changed out of my pajamas and I haven’t taken a shower all day! I guess I seriously need more work to do! I enjoyed listening to the rain this morning and just hanging out around the house. I did some reading, caught up on some accounting, got pictures posted from last week, spent almost an hour on the phone with Apple to get a new MacBook Pro battery (one of my current ones is bulging), spent some time pondering how to best plan some Sunday School things for the year, looked at flights for later this month and did a few other things. In all, it was a pretty productive day, I just never really got started!

I watched License to Wed this evening. It was quite a good movie. I thought it was very well thought out and well scripted. I must also admit I like Mandy Moore, but that’s beside the point. (And I tend to love anything with Robin Williams.) Some of the things the Reverend did may have been a bit excessive, but I think couples should have to go through a lot of pre-marriage counseling and be forced to think some things through before they tie the knot. Maybe we actually do need an actual license to wed with it’s accompany tests with how many marriages that don’t last past the wedding. I couldn’t believe some of the conversations it appeared this couple had never had and yet they were approaching marriage. I couldn’t consider asking someone to marry me without knowing how many kids she wanted to have. I would further think you would know where your bride wants to get married early on as well. What do people talk about if they don’t talk about these things when they’ve been together for years already?

I was thinking of how hard communication is in our daily lives. We need to learn to communicate better. As we get more tools to do so, I think we only backtrack and end up actually communicating worse than we had before. We have multiple forms of instant communication that can separate enormous distances and yet sometimes we can’t figure out the most simple of problems. I know I have a problem many times communicating my sincere feelings and getting the point across at times. I don’t always like to be direct and I like to have fun with things, so sometimes it is hard to tell when I am being sarcastic, trying to be funny or downright serious about something. I don’t know how to improve that other than to be direct all the time, but it seems that has gotten really old really fast in the past.

I hope someday to find someone who I can really communicate well with in both directions and get to the point where we can tell what the other one is truly thinking regardless of what or how something is said. That has got to be the second biggest key to any successful relationship, the first being love of course. Heck, communication may be more important than love because if you can communicate well you can probably get along even if you don’t truly love the other person!

The other thing I was thinking about in the movie is how sometimes we just can’t see what is right in front of us. We get so wrapped up in thinking that our way is the only way or that our way is right that we don’t notice how someone else’s way may be a bit better than ours. We may not realize that the way we treat certain people or always turn to someone else may hurt the overall relationship.

And then there are vows. I always love it when people write their own vows, but I can’t begin to fathom how hard an undertaking like that must be. The little vows they have at the end of the movie are quite funny, little things such as not to cry with the cubs lose, not to drink from the carton, to not check out your hot sister… What the writers came up with (not trying to ruin the end of the obvious ending to the movie) was pretty good: “I promise to fight fair and always make up. I vow to trust you no matter how jealous I get. I promise to be out of the ordinary. I vow to tell you what I feel without waiting for you to ask. I promise to be the best dad to however many kids we have. I vow to never ever let you go again.”

Trust, Communication and Holding on. The only thing I see missing is love, but I guess it is implied! Maybe being quick to realize your fault and be sorry wouldn’t hurt too. Maybe there is no simple answer! I guess when you realize that you love someone and that someone may not be perfect, but that they would give the world for you, you may be on to something. I guess it is time to move on to something else.

On a somewhat similar subject, I finished The Wednesday Letters today. I pretty much read the book in two sittings: Monday on the plane and this afternoon. I was thinking that their weekly letters may have helped keep the communication line open and certainly left an interesting story for their kids to unravel. I won’t go into the forgiveness that they must have possessed because it may ruin the story, but it made me want to start that kind of a tradition or legacy to leave behind. How great would it be to have a letter from each week of life together? I would think that something like that must convey some extra sort of dedication to keep it up week after week. So many things get left behind, but dedication like that may give one – or a relationship – a bit of extra power to survive some of the tougher bumps along the road.

Of course I thought of Tara when reading a good portion of the book, and I don’t mean like between husband and wife. I agreed to write her and had been thinking about what kind of things I could write that would be meaningful and useful to her. It came to me through reading this book that sometimes the actual message isn’t the important part, but rather the conveyance of love and support is what is truly critical. I’ve definitely been thinking about her since she reported on Wednesday. As weird as this may sound, I think she is the first missionary I have known before he or she entered the field, or at least that I was close to. I’ve been thinking about what it must be like for her and what an amazing opportunity it must be to be so focused on serving. I hope I have that same opportunity sometime.

Evan Almighty

I came home this evening and was so tired that I just decided to watch a movie, Evan Almighty. I thought it was quite good and liked it’s moral – random acts of kindness can change the world. I’m sure of it and I don’t think we all need to build an ark to figure that out.

I also liked the part in the movie where God is explaining to the wife that when someone asks for patience, He gives them the opportunity to be patient. That when they ask for courage, He gives them a venue to be courageous. He continues, but this is a good opportunity to ponder. Are there things we are asking for, that we are given the opportunity to receive but yet we disregard our own request because we aren’t willing to take a step and walk by faith? I know I have tons of opportunities to learn patience and I fail miserably each time. Maybe I am getting better little by little and I guess that is what matters is that we are progressing, because even baby steps or going half way will eventually get you there!

If I got to pick two favorite parts of the movie, it would certainly be that part in the restaurant and then at the conclusion when they are talking under the tree.

Be Careful What You Think

I’ve found a couple varieties of the following quotes. I see them quoted frequently, but I can’t seem to find a good source of what actually said what. If anyone has any useful information about what was originally said and who said it, I would appreciate learning from you.

Be careful what you think…
Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions
Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your character
Your character is everything

Be careful what you think, for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful what you say, for your words become your actions.
Be careful what you do, for your actions become your habits.
Be careful what becomes habitual, for your habits become your destiny.

Be careful what you think, for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful what you say, for your words become your actions.
Be careful what you do, for your actions become your character.
And character is everything.

Change

Leave it to Dove and my passion for their little dark chocolate squares…

Be the change you hope to see.

A profound statement from a piece of chocolate. After all, if we expect change, where better for it to start than with us and who better to implement it?

If You Wish

This African proverb was quoted at the Bosch/EV dinner the other night:

If you wish to go quickly, go alone.
If you wish to go far, go together.

I think there is a lot to ponder there. One can certainly travel faster alone, but for distance to be covered teamwork tends to work better. Life’s travels are so much better when you have someone else to help lift you and even to carry you when necessary.

You’re all smarter than me, so how about you tell me what you get from this?